Fallen Heroes of Operation Iraqi Freedom

Remembering the servicemembers who died in the service of their country.

Marine Staff Sgt. Donald C. May, Jr.

31, of Richmond, Virginia.
Killed during convoy operations when his tank plunged off a cliff into the Euphrates River. He was assigned to the 1st Tank Battalion, 1st Marine Division, Marine Corps Air-Ground Combat Center, Twentynine Palms, California. Died on March 25, 2003.

In the photos are Staff Sgt. May's three children: Mariah, Jack, and Will (who was born two months after his father's death.)

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SSgt. Donald May, Jr (1971 - 2003)
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"R.I.P great soldier"
Gabriela c of Richmond VA

"Don thinking of you today and last time we spoke. RIP brother you are missed. Heavy heavy heart today."
Mead of Florida

"Son, I truly wish you know how things are going for all your children. God bless them all. We are seeking the truth about your death and why none of you and your crew did not get the Purple Heart. We are working on this now. I love and miss you so much.See you at Heavens gate some day.❣️❣️🥰🇺🇲🇺🇲"
Brenda Reese May of N. Chesterfield VA. USA

"Never Forgotten!!! Semper Fidelis!!!"
Randy P.

"17 years and nothing has changed. I will love you forever."

"I will love you forever."

"In memory of Staff Sgt. Donald C. May, Jr. I will never forget that day in Washington, D.C., when I met Mrs. May on our way to the White House. She shared with me your story, showed me pictures of your children. Shared with me some of the issues of being a widow, and of dealing with all of the red tape without much help from the government. I found her to be strong and very brave. Also, such a great sense of humor to help get through it all. Reading her posts on Facebook, always makes me laugh! Staff Sgt. May, I honor your service. I never have forgotten. While I never had the honor to know you, I know that you are a hero. You and so many others (I know all heroes want to recognize their fellow soldiers) are the reason we are a free nation. I honor you today, and always. May you rest in eternal peace, and may your family know that we honor you, and reach out to them, ALWAYS. May God Bless America and keep us safe."
Dennis Ulmer of Fort Lauderdale, FL

"Mrs May,
Don and I were stationed together in Okinawa in 1992. He was my running buddy. And, when we weren't tearing up the island, I bet we watched " The quiet man " with John Wayne a 100 times. Did, he ever get to see Ireland ? I have photos of us on the island and it breaks my heart to look at them. In, closing, I would like you to know that Don was my friend and he will be remembered."
Billy Ayers / USMC of Georgetown, Texas

"Hey old friend,,,,I always remember you from good ol Charlie Co 2nd Tanks,,,you were always more than a fellow Marine to me,,,,you are my brother and I always carry you in my heart,,you are a great American and a true patriot,, I am proud and honored to have met you,,,I will always remember you and I always think of the loved ones you left behind how much they must miss you,,,,especially your wife and your three beautiful children,,I hope they always have happiness in their lives and may you always watch over them,,,Semper Fi my brother,,,I will never forget you"
Abraham Puente of Edinburg, TX, US


Been a while old friend, and I had not too long ago heard about your passing,or a place to pay homage or extend my condolences to you and your family. So here I am, Copenhagen in, and thinking about the lessons you helped me learn, and laughing out loud, while I think about all the times you had me rollin, just to keep this 6'4 298lb country boy calm and focused. In any case, it was a pleasure serving with you brother, and God Bless.

Semper Fi!"
Sanders of Hubert, Nc

"Staff Sergeant,

That night by that bridge has been the worst night of my life. We lost four outstanding Marines there. You were my brother and I have never forgotten the sacrifice you and your brave crew had made.

Semper Fi!"
J. Hightower of Newbury Park, CA

"A TRUE HERO! May your soul be in peace, knowing all who are so proud of you and what you have done for all of us!! God bless and watch over those left behind, who love you so much!!
Thank you from the bottom of my grateful heart!!"
Christina of Clinton, CT/ USA

"S/Sgt. May,
On today, the 10th anniversary of your death I would just like to say thank you to you and your fellow crewmembers for your service and sacrifice for our Country. And to your family and loved ones, I wish to extend my deepest sympathy.

Semper Fi Devil Dog!"

"Donny u were my biggest critic and ally u pushed me to achieve more just to compete with u. There will never be another like u my brother. Load Sabot old friend. Siemper Fi."
Cameron Best of New Bern, NC

"Thanks Don. I just want you to know I still remember and will never forget you. Semper Fi old friend"
Jamie Fuller of Ozark, Al

"Hello served in ssgt mays plt in 2d tkbn charlie company did alot of ops with him miss him alot, to his family im proud to have served with him and know im better for learning from him"
Lcpl. Matthew McKinney of Del Rio texas


"Rest In Peace Hero. A Grateful Nation Salutes You. Welcome Home"
Roger Rickert of Venice, Florida

"There is one particular moment in my life that was life changing and amazingly enough it was the one time I talked with my cousin Don face to face. I wouldn't see him again until his funeral but he made an impact that is everlasting. I think of him often as well as his family. Miriah really caught my heart when we met. My thoughts and prayers go out to all who knew and we're lucky enough to be impacted by Don as well but mostly to his family whom he cherished."
Erin Hardage (nee Mahoney) of Savannah, Ga.

"SSgt Donald May Jr. was my cousin. I didn't get a chance to know him but I did know his father. I have always been proud of my Uncle Donny and I am proud of his son as well. They were both heroes. My prayers, my hopes and all my best wishes for his family. May God bless you."
Sean F. Mahoney of Sunnyvale, California

"hi im Veronica McGrath and Donald was my cousin's brother in law and i just now found out that he died *crys* im so sorry"
Veronica of Woodbridge VA

"I Knew Don well on one hand and not so well on the other but i knew he loved his life as a marine and he would give the shirt off his back for anyone. i was lucky to be apart of his life for 3 years and think of him from time to time. i am so greatful he found love with you Deborah and you gave him what he desired most...children and as you know he was wonderful with them. you are a strong woman and i look up to you for standing firmly in what he beleived in and loving him for who he was. Me and my daughter miss him and pray for your family. Take care as i know you will. with love,4/01/09"
Melissa Gilbert of Powhatan, VA

I only recently found out about your death. My condolences to your wife and family. I've been thinking about you a lot lately and I wanted you to know that every American everywhere holds you in the highest regard. We often lose sight of what's not in front of us. Servicemembers deployed all over the world are easy for civilians to lose track of. Days like today are important because they help us to remember your sacrifice and the sacrifice your loved ones continue to live every day. As a former serviceman I understand what you've given since I was prepared to do the same. As a current civilian, I appreciate what you've done for me in a way most other civilians are incapable of. I wish you and yours nothing but the best! You live on in our hearts and memories. Charlie Co. 2d Tanks Semper Fi brother!
Timothy Darge
Corporal USMC
Timothy Darge of Garner, NC

It has been five years since your heroic passing. Everyday, there is talk of heroes and courage and honor-from those who wish they could find all of this in themselves. The ONLY person I have known to hold these virtues above his own life is YOU, Donald C. May, Jr.. Before your own life, you have placed the freedom and lifestyles of hundreds of millions of people, and ALL of us owe you infinitely for our way of life. Thank you Don for your service to our country. Thank you Don for your infectious smile, for your delightful way of looking at things, and for making me laugh. Thank you Don for protecting my freedom. Thank you Don for being a courageous, morale role model. YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN, and I will tell my children and grand-children about you and why you are SO GREAT! GOD BLESS YOU, Don, GOD BLESS our troops & sailors, and GOD BLESS The United States of America! LET FREEDOM REIGN!"
Curtis Hamlett of Burbank, CA

"Don, you are missed and loved by those that knew you! I'm thankful for the memories I have of you, ALL of which are fun and hilarious in some way or another. God has kept those memories of you clear in my mind, and I know it's so I can tell the children about you when they're older. I wish more people had the opportunity to meet you and know what a great man/husband/father/and marine you really were. I love and miss you."
~Jamie of Palm Coast, Fl

"I will not fail you, my love. I will continue on the path we shared, and I know you will be there to help me, as you always were. And when we meet again at the journey's end, and we laugh together once more, I will have a thousand things to tell you."- Queen Noor

I will never stop loving you Don."
Deborah of Jacksonville, NC

"Dear Don,
Thank you for your service and dedication to our beloved country. I can never say how thankful I am for your service, But in turn I promise you I will always be thier for your family, for they have become mine too. My travis is up thier in heaven with you protecting us from above. May you both know that you are beloved for all of eternity. Semper Fi Devil dog..."
Laura Youngblood of Sebastian, Florida

"This message is for Staff Sergeant Ainslie (below)

Thank you for stopping by my husband's memorial page. I assume that you left your political message for all to see here thinking that this page is frequented often. I am honored that you think my husband represents Service and Sacrifice to so many. Thank you for honoring him that way. He loved serving, being a Marine, and defending this country's beliefs. I am sure you have that same sense of Service or you wouldn't be a Staff Sergeant yourself, would you?

Unfortunately, the family of SSgt. Donald C. May, Jr. does not agree with you and your beliefs. I can also tell you that you are mistaken when you think our children are "fatherless". They most definitely have a Father. Please don't worry about our family, we have my husband's love and spirit to sustain us. Good luck, and thank you again for honoring Don."
Mrs. Deborah May of Jacksonville, NC

"Another soul lost in time, another family left without a father, another human life, extinguished. But, just another score in the governments book."
Staff Sergeant Ainslie. of Scotland - Great Britain

"SSgt May,
How can any civilian truly thank heroes like yourself enough?

I pray God's continuous blessings on your loyal wife and your beautiful children. May He always watch over them and be their helpmate and father in all circumstances. In Jesus' name, Amen."
Albion Wilde of FreeRepublic

"I served with SSGT May at 2nd Tanks Cco and enjoyed the times and laughs we had he always had a positive attitude and loved his family very much. Semper FI"
Matt of Indiana

"I served at Quantico PMO from 90-94 and had the pleausure to know Don, then LCpl May. Always smiling. Always laughing. Thanks Don. Thank You Don's family. Semper Fi"
Cpl Hill of Plymouth, NH

"May 30, 2007
To the family of Donald C. May, Jr. Donald gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
Peggy Childers of Carson City, NV

"I served briefly with SSgt. May's father Don Sr. during the Vietnam War.

I was in correspondence with SSgt. May just before his deployment to Iraq. I was shocked and am sadden at his tragic loss.

I am Founder and President Emeritus of the USMC Vietnam Tankers Association and Board Member Emeritus Marine Corps Tankers Historical Foundation."
Richard Carey of Cotuit, MA

"Semper Fi, Staff Sergeant. I wish you fair winds and following seas."
Sgt Tigernan of Houston, TX

"Semper Fi Staff Sergeant. Fallen but not forgotten."
Lcpl Jordan of Tulsa, OK

"Rest in peace devil dog you will always be remembered.
LCPL C.A. Bales usmc/0161"
C.A. Bales of Mcloud,OK/USA

"I served with SSgt May in Iraq. I remember the dust storm and then hearing the calls over the radio...silence and I knew something was wrong. I remember it like it was five minutes ago. I cannot tell you enough how proud I am to have served with SSgt May and all the Marines of 1st Tank Bn. I will never forget you and what we did over there. God Bless you and your family....Semper Fidelis."
Sergeant Troy ("5 Lima") Lorensen of Nebraska

"Your sacrifice and life will always be appreciated and honored. Your children and family are in my prayers always. Thank you is so inadequate to express my appreciation."
Janel of Columbia, MO

"Don, it hurts to live without you. Our children are absolutely beautiful."

"This 'message' is MUCH too late but on this night I am again overwhelmed with a since of pride for just knowing you.

I fully comprehend that freedom isn't free & that blood is freedoms' stain----NOTHING will bring you back or weaken the pain of all that love you....however I do feel that tonight in some small way your sacrifice has been justified. Knowing you like I did I know that you are smiling tonight."
Joe Michalek of Chesterfield/VA/USA

I would like to say thank you to you and your fellow tank crewmembers for your service and sacrifice for our Country. And to your family and loved ones, I wish to extend my deepest sympathy. I remember learning about you and your crew when I was watching the National Memorial Day Concert on PBS and it broke my heart when they introduced your wife and children. But I know that you are now looking out for your family and fellow Marines as a guardian angel.

Semper Fi Devil Dog!"

"Donald C. May - R.I.P.
For many years, through middle school and high school, Don was a good friend. When I learned of his death, I vividly remembered how adament he was about protecting and serving this country. He was so proud that his parents both served; it was fitting that he did the same. At the same time, he was a smiling face and a great sense of humor. I think of you often, Don. Your courageous, selfless, untimely death gives us all reason to mourn, yet inspires us to carry on. Your memory and the memory of your fallen brothers will live long in our hearts. THANK YOU for your service to our country and for your ultimate sacrafice to protect our freedom and our way of life. You have really brought home what the TRUE price of freedom is. GOD bless your soul Donald C. May, Jr., and GOD bless The United States of America--The GREATEST country on Earth!"
Curtis Hamlett of Hollywood, CA

"May God watch over your family and friends with you at his side. You are a true hero and patriot."
Fellow Virginian of Norfolk, VA

"Happy Birthday, Master Gunner.

You are missed, and you will never be forgotten.

Not on my watch.

"Load Sabot, Driver move out!""
Master Gunner - TankerBrothers.com of Killeen, TX

I was the copy editor working on the front page of The Desert Sun in Palm Springs the day we found out your husband and the men in his tank had died. I am the daughter and former wife of U.S. Marines and I cannot tell you how hard that hit me and how tough it was to do that front page, but it was nothing compared to what your family has faced.

The photo of your family that we ran with the story haunts me to this day and I have often wondered how you all are.

You are in my thoughts and prayers. I so admire your bravery and I am so proud of your family and so very sorry for your loss.

You are the epitome of grace."
Kelly O'Sullivan of 29 Palms, CA

"Every Soldier, Marine, Sailor, or Airman lost in either peace or war is a tragedy. To lose a serviceman in the line of fire, however, is a sobering wake-up call for the rest of America: that there are brave men and women who would die to protect the interests of the nation they serve, and the citizens they represent.

SSgt. Donald C. May, Jr was a hero.

He served his country with pride and distinction, and shed his blood for us halfway around the world to bring the oppressed people of Iraq the democracy and freedoms that we take for granted every single day.

SSgt. May was a son, a husband, a father, a Marine, a Tanker, and a Master Gunner. And he excelled in all those roles.

Tank Master Gunners in the US Army and the United States Marine Corps have the unique opportunity to learn their trade in a Joint Environment. Tank Master Gunners are the hand-picked elite of the Armored Force. We are chosen by our Commanders based on our tactical and technical proficiency to attend a rigorous course at Fort Knox, Kentucky, to make us subject matter experts in Armored Warfare, Tank Gunnery, Armor capabilities and employment, and training development and execution.

Some of the most proficient Master Gunners I have ever had the opportunity to work with were United States Marines.

When a Master Gunner is lost in combat, the United States Military loses a valuable Combat Multiplier. The Tactical Commander loses a trusted advisor. The Armored Force loses a subject matter expert. And every Master Gunner loses a brother.

Before I went to Iraq the last time, I would tell my wife, "Don't worry, Honey. I'm a Master Gunner. Bullets have to ask permission to hit me."

Bravado. But we all know that's not always the case.

While nothing I could ever say would make up for the loss of this brave and talented Non-Commisioned Officer, I can say that I personally feel what a catastrophic loss SSgt. May's death is for our Armored Force. And I feel like I have lost a brother-in-arms.

Even over three years after that tragic day in Iraq, when SSgt. May's tank went over a bridge and into the Euphrates River, the pain of that loss still affects the men and women who looked up to, trusted, and respected SSgt. May.

My thoughts, and those of my family, as well as all Master Gunners in both branches of service, go out to Mrs. May, their daughter, and their two sons.

God Bless You, Ma'am. And God Bless SSgt. May."
Master Gunner of TankerBrothers.com

"Happy 4th July Don. May each colored spark in the nights sky this year bring a memory and a smile to the faces of your family. You were a blessing to them and a joy to those who knew you and worked aside you. Regardless of politics and the opinions of others you are indeed a hero and your life will be celebrated as such. God Bless."
The Recklies Family of Vancouver WA

"Donald was not only a father and a friend, but he was a true "American Hero"."
Alex Zarantenello

"What Jesus does say is "Thank you my obedient child, thank you and I honor you for laying your life down for the well-being of others. As I did for yours. Well done my good and Faithful son.""
Lillie (again) of Salinas, CA

"Saying Thank you Don, is not enough. God Bless you Deborah and kids."
Lillie Bryant of Salinas, CA

"I, myself was stationed at 29 Palms, CA with 2/7 Weapons PLT. I was a TOW gunner. I never knew your husband, but he was my brother none the less. All Marines are brothers and I hate that he passed on, not only for you, but for Marines world-wide. I share your loss and just know that he is in a better place and will live on in our hearts and thoughts.....Thanks for your wonderful tribute on behalf of a VET....Semper Fi..."
John (SGT K)-USMC of Las Vegas

"I knew May back at Lejuene 2D Tanks, He is a true Marine. Semper Fi bud, cya on the ramp."
SSgt T.A Lytle of Okinawa Japan

"Its been along time since I pulled this website up but it still brings tears to my eyes. Don was a good friend all through high school and those memories still remain with me. I pray for his family everyday. Having known him I know how great their loss is."
Feyna Lamm of Richmond, VA

"i carry your heart with me

by e.e. cummings

i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
my heart) i am never without it (anywhere
i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)

i fear
no fate (for you are my fate,my sweet) i want
no world (for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

Don, I will love you longer than forever."
Deborah of Jacksonville, NC

I'm the mom of 2 soldiers who have served in Iraq/Afghanistan. One son was injured in Afghanistan and is no longer in the Army. My other son will return to Iraq in late summer. He has 2 small children; his daughter was born during his 1st deployment.
Please know that your husband is a true hero, but he is not the only hero in your family- YOU are also a hero for the way you are honoring his memory and the sacrifices made by all of our brave men & women, and the families they left behind.
I will keep you and your children in my prayers. Thank you for your family's service to our country, and please know that I will always be grateful."
Becky Rollings of Groveland, IL April 8, 2006

"I was stationed with Don in Quantico from 93-96. Funny guy that was always dependable. I was looking at some old gear and pictures this weekend and decided to try to contact Don. I searched his name a few minutes ago and learned of his death. I cant describe my feelings right now thinking I would be able to talk to him again and finding we had talked for the last time. My heart grieves for his family. I hope you can be comforted by the fact that he was a great guy and the fact that years after we had seen each other last, that I was still thinking about him and wished we could talk. Semper Fi. I'll miss you, buddy."
Marc Wanick of Fort Lauderdale, FL

My email is debm29palms@yahoo.com. Please email me if you can. Thank you, once again, for all of your messages for Don."
Deborah May of Jacksonville, NC

"To the family of:Donald C. May I am so sorry for the loss of your love one. He died a hero defending freedom. May you have the peace and understanding that only comes from God. Prayerfully, we will meet in Heaven one day where we will rest in the arms of Jesus. If you need prayer or need someone to talk to, please call or write my pastor: Rev. John Pearrell, Gateway Community Church, 11677 Brown Bridge Rd., Covington, GA 30016. (770)787-1015. Your friend in Jesus Christ,"
Polly Ballew of Covington,Ga

I am sorry I haven't recieved your messages as the email I had for some reason didn't leave the message just the subject from you to me. I have since got a new email it is lbrtyrsk@charter.net I would like to hear from you or anyone that served with Don, or us in the Marine Corps. I have just returned from my 2nd tour in Iraq and just wanted to say I still think of him all the time. Deborah, You have strength I will never know, but I just saw the meroial page to Don http://donaldcmayjr.memory-of.com/About.aspx and it brought a tear to my eye. Anyone who reads this please follow this link, and remember who Don is. Semper Fi. Thanks Don I love you brother."
Jamie Fuller of Ozark, Al

"Dear Mrs. May,
I am here in my classroom crying over your loss. Bolstered by your spirit as well. SSGt May was a lucky man to have you as his "Woman of the house". Your strength in spirit is inspirational to me. I too served in the Marines and I know a little of the daily sacrifice the military demands from "our" families, I know nothing of the ultimate sacrifices except what brave souls like yourself share with me. My students will hear about you and your husband. I hope they will learn what pride and love have to do with our freedoms. I am glad that you knew good love from a good man. May God keep that with you. I will keep your family in my prayers and my students will know your name this Veteren's Day."
william.gant@mnps.org of Tenn.

22,000 hours have passed since you died........how have I survived so many hours without you?"
Deborah of Jax, NC

"I had SSgt May, Donald as my tank commander when I checked in to the "Fleet" I was his loader and all I have to say about him is that he was a great man. He got promoted to SSgt two months after I checked in to "C" Co, 2nd Tank Bn. We will miss him......

Semper Fidelis
Alonzo Miranda, J.M.
Sergeant of Marines / 1812"

"I served with Don (at the time Lcpl May)at Quantico in MP Company. I remember him like it was yesterday, standing in the back of the roll call room. Coffee, smokes, cracking jokes even his leprehcaun impersonations all this at 5 am. I never thought I would go to his funeral. It's important for people to know that he was a good man, respected by his fellow Marines and friends. He was such a strong spirit. I'm sure he's waiting for his family on his Ruby Pier. God bless and watch over his loved ones."
Sgt 89-93 of Virginia

""But always remember this, Marines die, that's what we're here for. But the Marine Corps lives forever, and that means YOU live forever."
Thank You Marine"

"Deborah, I would love for you or anyone else that knew Don to contact me at jamiefuller@troycable.net. I don't really have anyone else contact info that served with him"
Jamie Fuller of Ozark, Al

"Thank you Jamie.....for remembering......."
Deborah May-Proud wife of Don KIA 03/25/03 of NC

"Hey Sgt May,
Well Its Memorial Day again. Thanks brother. I love you man. Jamie"
Jamie Fuller of Ozark, AL USA

"I met Donald when I was about 11 years old in the Navy League Cadet Corps. It seems that we were attached at the hip. People would always get the two of us confused with one another. It seems like only yesterday. But as we grew up and joined different branches of the service, he in the Marines and I in the Air Force, we still would always be as brothers, however now as brothers-in-arms. When I got the call that day, that Don's picture was in the paper it seemed like my world fell apart. I was there to see my brother one last time, only this time not face to face, only to see his children and wife, Deborah, and to know that this country had lost one of its heroes. I miss you Don, and will be ever thankful to have known you. I salute you my friend, my brother. May God bless his family, and let them have the love and the pride that they deserve to have had such a fine man, such as Don."
SSgt Dan Garrett, USAF of Dover AFB, DE

"Sgt May. You know I did some stupid things when we served together from 96-99. I want you to know that because you had the courage to stand up with pride and fight when asked you made me realize the real reason of Marine. It was what we did because we loved it not because we were just passing time. You made my decision to go back in easy because you always loved the Marine Corps. Thanks for being there for me when I needed you. Now I pick up that flag and stand post with you. Semper Fi Marine. I will never forget you."
Jamie Fuller of Ozark, AL USA

"I knew Donald when he was growing up. He grew up around family who clearly loved him. He's been in my mom's house many times as a child and I have no doubt that my mom is crying tears in Heaven right now and looking for Donald to give him a hug for all of his family who can't do so right now.
A terrible loss to a fine family and my heart goes out to his wife and kids."
Christopher Guest of Richmond/Tappahannock, Va. USA.

"I've been visiting this site now and then to read about the men and women who sacrificed their lives so that my children and I can continue to enjoy the freedoms we have as Americans and to read about the families they left behind. Regarding one message in particular here from the wife of SSgt. May, I just want to add an emphatic "AMEN" and let her know that many of us will be forever grateful to her husband and his comrades for their service to our country. Thank you so much."
of Fredericksburg, Virginia

"I was a Marine in the same platoon with Don for about 2-3 yrs., can't remember the exact time maybe more. He was my roommate in the barracks for a long time and I will always remember his love of John Wayne and Papa John's. He would wake up earlier than me and sip on his coffee eventually waking me up. Don was a great guy of whom I shared many memorable times with. One time I didn't have a ride home, and he let me use his truck for the entire weekend, great guy. Been golfing, shooting and drinking with him, I will never forget him. I will always remember his laugh and sense of humor. God bless, Semper Fi, Don....Thanks for being my friend through all of the adversity"
Anonymous of Anonymous

"Donald I will forever picture you walking your young son through the streets of 29 Palms at Halloween ... he was a clown and you were a loving father. May you rest in peace and occasionally mile down upon your strong and beautiful family. God Bless you and keep you by his side."
Lisa Recklies of Vancouver, WA


"When A Marine Goes To Heaven.

You can keep your Army Khaki,
You can keep your Navy Blue.
I have the worlds best fighting man,
To introduce to you.

His Uniform is different,
The best you've ever seen.
The Germans call him "Devil Dog,"
His real name is "Marine."

He was born on Parris Island,
The place where God Forgot.
The sand is eighteen inches deep,
The sun is blazing hot.

He gets up every morning,
Before the rising sun.
He'll run a hundred miles and more,
Before the day is done.

He's deadly with a rifle,
A bayonet made of steel.
He took the warrior's calling card,
He's mastered how to kill.

And when he gets to Heaven
St. Peter he will tell,
One more Marine reporting sir,
I've served my time in Hell.

So listen all you young girls,
To what I have to say:
Go find yourself a young Marine,
To love you every day.

He'll hug you and he'll kiss you,
And treat you like a queen.
There is no better fighting man:


""It is remarkable our gift to them, we serve so they don't have to. How many of those who support the war, would offer their sons, brothers, and fathers? Thank you for your gift. you have given your life for my freedom.""
I. M. MARINE of Delta "Dog" Co 1st Tank Bn. STEEL ON TARGET

"To the friends and family of Donald C. May:
Though there is nothing that can be said to make the pain go away, I hope it brings you some comfort to know that others grieve with you and appreciate your loved ones sacrifice. I lost my husband, Justin Linden to the war in Iraq. It is so hard getting by, but I know it always helps to know people are praying for me, so I hope it helps to know I am praying for all of you. Donald will be remembered as a hero forever."
Sarah Linden of Portland, OR USA

"To Don's family:

Hello, I went to high school with Don. He was one of the nicest people I've ever known. Funny, kind and a good heart. Even 13 years after graduating, his loss brought me to tears. I wish I knew the right words. Just know that tears were shed for a wonderful person, and he is remembered"
Jen Lofquist of Sterling, Virginia

"RIP Marine"
Petty Officer Cawthon of RTC Great Lakes, IL

"hello, my name is margaret may... i have a brother named donald c. may who i have not spoke to in over 6 years.. my father donald may.remarried and had a son i was watching tv and saw them read the names of the fallen, when i saw Donald C May.. i was sunned. i look at this mans picture and wonder if this is in fact my brother....please email me at gypsy836@aol.com my prayers are with you"
Margaret May of walters Oklahoma

"hello, my name is margaret may... i have a brother named donald c. may who i have not spoke to in over 6 years.. my father donald may.remarried and had a son i was watching tv and saw them read the names of the fallen, when i saw Donald C May.. i was sunned. i look at this mans picture and wonder if this is in fact my brother....please email me at gypsy836@aol.com my prayers are with you"
Margaret May of walters Oklahoma

"You were a good friend for years and you were my hero long before you became a marine. High school would have not been the same had I not met you.You are greatly missed all who knew you. All the lives you touched have been changed forever. You are never to be forgotten."
Feyna Lamm of Green Bay , VA

"Deborah and Family:

I served in the Air Force, during the Vietnam War. As a former married serviceman, I understand some of the sacrifices you and Don made.

As you have said so well, freedom isn't free. I just want to let you know I appreciate the service and sacrifices you made together."
Paul Peasley of Richmond, VA

Not a day goes by that I dont think of you and your crew that fell with you... I was glad to be able to have worked with you, you made my time in Tank Bn. enjoyable... More then that, I'm proud to have been able to call you a friend.. You will be missed.... You are missed..."
GySgt Scott Richardson of Ohio

"To Remember Them..In loving Memory..Its been a year..

At the rising of the sun and at its going down, We remember them.
At the blowing of the wind and in the chill of Winter, We remember them.
At the opening of buds and in the rebirth of Spring, We remember them.
At the blueness of the skies and in the warmth of Summer, We remember them.
At the rustling of leaves and the beauty of Autumn, We remember them.

As long as we live, they too will live;
for they are now a part of us, as we remember them.
Rest in Peace Dear Marine!!! We will NEVER FORGET!"
The Grogan Family of Lakeland, TN

"You are so missed. I tell Deborah something and want to say, tell Don. We are so proud of you, but we miss you soo much. Allison cries for you every week. Her school prays for you weekly at mass. We miss your laughter and joy. You were always there for me and my family--no matter what. You were so firm in your beliefs--that is what made you so wonderful. But we are so proud of you--you did this for all of us. You would be so proud of your wife and children--they are all wonderful. We miss you and think of you every day. We Love you.
We thank you, we miss you so so much, and we think of you every day. We love you."
Katie Koszyk of Homewood, IL

"It is hard to know where to begin.. People everyday dont think about why we have the freedoms we do. It is because of people like Don that we have these.He made the ultimate sacrafice and because of this we must never forget. I will never be able to thank Don in person but I will forever in my heart thank him. Deb I love you and the kids more than I can ever say. I will never forget the day the guys left for Irac and of course Don was cracking jokes and being silly. He was so happy to be going and defending his country. He loved the Marine Corps and he will forever be a hero. Forever in our heart and never forgotten!!!"
Rachel Phillips of Tempe, Arizona

"Sergeant May, goodbye soldier and thank you. You are my hero."
Bill of Houston, Texas

"Don, tomorrow it will be a year..........and I still hope everyday that you walk in the door and scream," Woman of the house, where is my food??" with that huge smile of yours. I miss you with all of my heart. I told you the night you left I knew I could take care of everything, the house, the kids, the bills, etc......that I just didn't want to do it without you. I will live the rest of my life doing everything you thought I could do just because I will make sure that you will be proud of me. Mariah talks about you every day and I know she is lucky to have memories. I will make sure the boys know who you are.....we will live with you in our hearts forever. And Don, I will dance with you in my heart forever until I can meet you in our Heaven. Thank you for showering me with love the time we were together.....now I know you were trying to give me enough to last 40 years...........I LOVE YOU

Deborah May of Jacksonville, NC

"I am so very sorry someone used this memorial as a sounding board for their personal belief and opinion... and I commend you - - for your love and understanding...
Freedom of speech is NOT FREE! Sandi B from Montana "

"We Will NEVER FORGET !" As the first anniversary of the death of your loved one arrives;
Please KNOW so many people share your sadness, and we are remembering all your family and loved ones in your loss and your deep grief. Your HERO, Donald, will be remembered by name. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. God Bless you. Pat & Sandi Breckenridge from Montana "

"My name is Deborah and I am Don's wife......And this message is for Rebecca (the message below)

When I saw your message, I followed my first instinct and immediately asked that it be removed. It was insulting to me that you have decided my husband's death had something to do with oil and greed. I have thought about it for some hours and I hope they don't remove your message. You have the freedom to voice your opinion in a public forum and you know why you are able to do this in this beautiful country???????? BECAUSE THERE ARE MEN AND WOMEN SO BRAVE THEY WILL LAY DOWN THEIR LIFE FOR YOU TO HAVE THIS RIGHT. My husband knew what his job entailed and PROUDLY SERVED to make the world a better place for his children (he has three- 7 1/2, 2 1/2, and 10 months) You enjoy the freedoms you have Rebecca and use them wisely......and remember who gave them to you with their blood and sweat..that will be your tribute to my husband SSgt. Donald C. May, Jr."
Mrs. Deborah May of Jacksonville, NC

"I am from Missoula Montana, and we had our 1 yr memorial for the beginning of the Iraq war last night. I read Donald's name and wanted to find out more about him. I am sad so many of our young sons and daughters have fallen in the name of oil and greed. I hope we can stop this useless loss of life and find other means for democracy building."
Rebecca Holman of Missoula, Montana, USA

There isn't a word
to describe your smile
The one I lived for
that made life worth while
There is no picture
that I could paint to
depict your love
So many details of you
so little time
If you give me paints
and a dried up brush
I could paint of you the
most beautiful picture
Drawn with love and
no more fear
painting over your
last lonely tear
The brightest colors
with the most beautiful touch
With flowers and rainbows
One big heart
One rare rose
like a beautiful blue stream
filled with love as it flows
It would be a beautiful painting
as you can see
A portrait of love is YOU AND ME.
Knowing that you
did not die in vain
somtimes help
ease the pain
I will never forget
your touch
your smile,
your love,
your smell.
I will never
stop missing you
I will never lose hope.
I will look into my childrens eyes
and see their daddy
for the rest of my life it seems.
The fallen hero and
his courageous wife. I love you Don.
I'll see you tonight in my dreams.
Deborah I didnt know Don personally but I have heard alot about him. I wish you and the kids nothing but the best. And when you look into the kids eyes see the reflection of their daddy smiling back at you. You have done an awesome job at staying on track and staying strong. I cannot imagine what this feels like but I know one thing his sacred journey to heaven was a beautiful one. And one day you will be in his arms again. Thank you Don for defending our freedoms and our hopes and dreams. God will bless you and look over your family. But it is nice to know such a beautiful strong angel is around now to protect you on earth as he lives in heaven. Peace to your heart Deborah. Keep on going girl. You are the strongest woman with a will to fight. And because of that you will be ok. Let the tears come let the hurt out. Talk to him and he will hear you and hold you in your hard times. FEEL HIM ALWAYS. Peace to you and your children always. Amy"
Amy Hall of West Olive, Michigan, U.S of A

"Don was a wonderful husband & father, to him the sun rose & set on his children & he was looking forward to meeting the newest addition to the family upon his return. Unfortunately it now falls upon us - friends & family - to ensure that his children know the kind of person that he was, a devoted family man but a Marine to the end. Don had a unique sense of humor which did not go unappreciated or unnoticed by those who met him. Don was truly a unique individual who brought out the best in his wife, Deborah. He's terribly missed by those who were blessed in having met him & having had him as a part in our lives."
SSgt. & Mrs. John Stinnett of Ft Leonard Wood, MO

"I know that this fine example of the best that the Marine Corps has to offer is presently standing guard at the Pearly Gates. I will be very happy and honored to render him a hand salute when it is my time to report to the Lord.

I knew Don's fine father when we served together in Charlie Company, 3rd Tank Batallion in Vietnam way back in 1968. Don followed his daddy's footsteps into the Marines and into tanks. These two Marine tankers are together in heaven as you read this.

To Don's grieving family...be glad in the knowledge that Don was a true warrior and patriot. The Lord is watching over him and you. Please be at peace and know that there are tens of thousands of Americans who love Don and who love you.

Semper Fidelis,
John Wear of New Hope, PA ...(It's near Phialdelphia)

"Thank you Donald May, you will not be forgotten. Your bravery goes beyond words. I want to express my deepest gratitude for your sacrifice. To the family and friends, my prayers and deep condolences in your loss. May God strengthen you from knowing that fellow Americans and people around the world care about you and grieve with you in your loss. God bless you all. A very appreciative fellow American,"
Leo Titus of Grayslake, Illinios

"It was an honor to serve with SSgt May in Charlie Company, 1st Tank Battalion. Before I became a SSgt he was my platoon sergeant and then during the war he was the other plow tank in the company along with me. He always had an interesting since of humor and we all loved to pick on him as well as him picking on us. Semper Fidelis Marine and tell St. Peter we said hello."
SSgt Matthew E. Dordal of C Co 1st Tank Bn 1st MarDiv

"Our prayers are with your family during this difficult time. Thank you brave soldier, your courage and sacrifice will nerver be forgotten."
Ken and Maritza Holley of Pembroke Pines, Florida

"To the family and friends of Staff Sgt. Donald May:
May God's grace be with you during your time of grief. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and we feel your loss and share in your sorrow. Bless Donald for the sacrifice he has made to make a better life for the rest of us."
The Ford Family of Wells, Nevada

"To the family and friends of Staff Sgt. Donald May:
I am saddened by the loss of your loved one. He will always be remembered as a hero for fighting for freedom. I hope that this website will be a source of comfort and encouragement for you during this difficult time, and in the future as you recall the memories of Donald, who continues to live on in your heart."
Tim Rivera, of Powder Springs, Georgia


"RIP Brave Marine"
The Taylors, USMC of North Carolina

"Thank you for allowing your hero to protect our freedoms!"
Holly of Charlottesville, VA

"God Bless you and your family. You are truly a hero. may you rest in peace"
Connie May- Justice of waterloo iowa USA

Honor them by remembering... Freedom - is their gift to us But his soul goes marching on