22, of Shelby Township, Michigan.
Barbret died in Ar Ramadi, Iraq, when an improvised explosive device detonated near his convoy. He was assigned to 44th Engineer Battalion, Camp Howze, Korea. Died on October 14, 2004.
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"While just walking around the Romeo Cemetery a short time ago, I came upon Marks Memorial. Pretty sad he had to die at such an young age, and so far away in a foreign land. I feel so sorry for his family and friends that miss him."
Dan Pieniak of Sterling Heights, Michigan USA
"Thinking of you today and missing you. Love"
Aunt Charlotte of Lexington, MI
"Miss you Cousin."
Kenneth Powers of Jackson, MI/U.S.
"Hey Cousin, just checking in again. Still miss you. Never forgotten. Keeping my chin up and keeping it real.Hooah"
Kenneth Powers of Brooklyn MI
"Mark,thinking of you this Memorial Day weekend in 2013-a True Hero for your country,all your family who are so proud of you-til we meet again-with Love"
Uncle Frank & Aunt Betty of Chesterfield,Mi.
"Hey cousin,
We only met a few select times and wish there was more time we could have used. This world though is not run on wishes, and is a dark place if anything. That's why you have to persevere, and keep staying aloft, not falling down. I myself am joining up soon, probably Army but I was looking into the Navy heh. Love you man and miss you."
Kenneth Powers of Chicago
"I miss you Mark . I'm getting married on July 22, 2012. I wish you could be there. We are going out to the golf course today and checking it out with my family and as we go we will stop by your
memorial. I Miss you! I think of you all the time."
Bitman of Macomb
"Remembering you this Memorial Day weekend 2012 & ALWAYS! Miss you & love you Mark. xo"
Melissa Barbret of Armada, MI
"god bless"
robert dittmar of Melbourne,FL usa
"Their is not a day thats passes that I dont think about you and your family. I miss you bro. I always tell people about you and tour crazy since of humor. 6 and a half years now and I still wish I could joke around with you. I still have your mom and dads number and adress in my walet. From time to time I start to send a letter to them but I can never finnish. Please forgive me for that. See you. again brother and I do miss you."
Spec Yoes, Patrick of Covington, La
""Memorial Day 2011 - Meditation by J S Hifler:
Eagles soar more surely than we walk - but even so we are eagles in spirit. Physical wings are not so important to us if we can free our spirits to soar.
As a symbol of freedom, the eagle builds its nest higher than any other nests and its eyes have vision that can survey anything moving far below. It sets it wings to catch the wind and its flight is graceful and beautiful.
Unlike us, it takes time to renew and restore. Even its old feathers are replaced with new ones.
When we set our minds and spirits to do something, nothing can bring us down. But rest and renewal are necessary.
Rest in Peace Mark - Our Eagle - Our Hero""
Aunt Charlotte of Lexington MI
"Just reading the messages from over the years. It has been almost 7 years since you have been gone. We still miss you. Thinking of you on this Memorial Day & saying once again: Thank You Mark. I love you. - Melissa"
Melissa Macchi of Armada, MI
"It is coming up on 6 years on October 14th. For every one of those days that have gone by, I think of that day in Ramadi that changed my life. I like Scott Bottom I have stories to tell that would make anyone smile but unlike him I want to hold on to them for my own. In October of 2006 I got out of the Army and the following year I made a trip to see Mark. I met his sister and she and I talked at Marks grave site. I will never forget the man that I meet over in Korea and took great pride in watching grow into a great soldier. When I got home from seeing him I went out and got the wrist band that we had made tattooed on me forever. I was out there the day that he was taken. I know he is missed by ever one that ever came in contact with him. His personality made sure of that. He was a great friend and being one of the older NCOs in Korea I looked out for the younger ones like they were my kids. I loved each and every one of them like they were brothers or kids because they were. That is why it is so hard to forget that day. I know his is watching over every one that had the pleasure of knowing him. God Bless you Mark A Barbret. And I will continue to have two shots of Crown Royal every October 14th. One for you and one for me. Love Ya Bro."
SGT Mace of Kiron, Iowa
"Long time no talk brother. I just learned about this memorial the other day and stopped by to remind you that you are still loved (as if you didn't already know) We had fun in BCT and AIT, you went to Korea, myself to Bragg. I will never forget the morning that I was informed of our loss. I had just talked to you a few weeks prior before you left Korea for Iraq. I have kept you in my thoughts and in my heart since the day we met in MEPS. I miss you brother, I hope you have found the peace wherever you are now that you could not find here."
Paul Wheeler (Scaglione) of Belleville, MI
"Thankyou brother."
Robert Reidle of Lawrence, KS
"Mark
You very always very dear to us and we miss you so much. It was not the birthday present I wanted for my birthday (hearing that you were gone). It still burns a hole in my heart every time it comes around. You are everyone's hero and are truely missed. My prayer's are with the family and friends that are trying to move on. I know it's hard but stay strong."
Dusty & Phil Pedrosi of Macomb, MI
"Mark, you will always be my hero and I will not forget about you."
Daryl Garrison of Rochester Hills, MI
"Sunday Sep 13 2009
I had no idea this page was here. My name is Scott Bottom and I met Mark in Korea in late 2003. We quickly became friends and shared our veiws of the world through beer colored glasses. He was very energetic and keep that huge smile on his face seemily at all times. He loved his music, his baggy clothes and, his Newport Cigs. I could ramble on here for hours about what we did and the things we saw, but no I think I keep them still in my heart for now. Maybe next time. I will say this, is missed by more than just by family and I wear his name on my wrist everyday. I know of a few others that do to. I dont know his son but may I be allowed to say "Keep your head up high and walk tall, for a big man's shadow you follow. This will not be an impossible task, nor will it be easy. Good Luck and God Speed!" Thank You!"
SGT Scott Bottom of Cameron, NC
"Mark,
Hey buddy I come to your page quite often, but can never bring myself to write you. Most of the time I start a message but never leave it, I just don't know what to say. I remember that morning vividly, our conversation that day would have been much longer if I knew how it would have turned out. I miss you buddy. I wish I would have taken a few more pics of us all of us together. I know you're in a better place but we still miss you down here. See you on the flip side bro."
SGT Caleb Morse of Louisiana
"To Nicole,
Christopher's Red Prayer Shawl is ready; please email me to verify your correct address. Thank you,
Cozette Haggerty, PS4FS
ps4fs@charter.net"
Cozette Haggerty of Wilbraham, MA USA
"Mark, its been awhile since i wrote last actually a few years. everything is still the same. most of us went our own ways and are married.
its been many years now since high school and since your life was taken. i still think about ya and the good times we had. i guess its just a part of life.
im still prayin for ya brother. im sure your in a good place in gods arms. i know this pry isnt the smartest thing to say in the e-mail here but i hope to god they killed the basterd that took your life. you take care and best wishes to the family..."
Paul Zettel of Shelby twp Mich,
"Four years ago today, you gave your life doing what you wanted to do. I still miss you terribly & wonder what life would be like today if you were still with us. We miss you Mark - We love you Mark,
Your cousin,
Melissa"
Melissa Macchi of Roseville, MI
"To the Barbret family: Thinking of you on this anniversary. We connected with you both at the Gold Star gathering in Sept. this year. Days like this are hard to get through but want you to know you are in our thoughts and prayers and of course identify with your loss. It was a wonderful wknd in Lansing even in the pouring rain. Was pretty wet in the building also with all the tears falling as we remembered our heroes. But was another step in the healing process. Hope to see you again.
Paul and Linda Elandt, parents of Sgt. Aaron C. Elandt"
Linda Elandt of Port Hope, MI 48468
"Marky mark, Its been a while i don't go a day with out thinking about you. I think about all the stupid things we did, our fun times AT mcd. Ill never forget you, i always keep your COIN close."
Dustin of Atl, GA
"Memorial Day 2008 - Uncle D and I placed your picture on our front door today and spent the day thinking about you and the joy you brought to our family. While trying to deal with the sadness surrounding today I found this meditation by J S Hifler and it helped quiet my mind.
Eagles soar more surely than we walk - but even so we are eagles in spirit. Physical wings are not so important to us if we can free our spirits to soar.
As a symbol of freedom, the eagle builds its nest higher than any other nests and its eyes have vision that can survey anything moving far below. It sets it wings to catch the wind and its flight is graceful and beautiful.
Unlike us, it takes time to renew and restore. Even its old feathers are replaced with new ones.
When we set our minds and spirits to do something, nothing can bring us down. But rest and renewal are necessary.
Rest in Peace Mark - Our Eagle - Our Hero"
Aunt Charlotte of Lexington MI
"April 13, 2008
To the family of Pfc. Mark A. Barbret:
Mark gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org"
Peggy Childers of Carson City, NV
"I took over Alpha Co 44th Engineer Maintenance after Mark was put on his detail that ultimately he gave all for but I still feel like he was one of my Soldiers. As I near retirement I look back and realize that is was guys like him that made all the sacrifices, long times away from home and being cold and wet worth it. He always had a way of making people laugh at the silliest things. When I first got to 44th in Korea in March of 04 he was the first Soldier that got my attention. He had that mischievous look in his eye that made me think he would be a problem but he turned out to be the exact opposite. Always quick with a joke or a laugh and had the amazing ability to make you laugh at yourself. His name is on my arm forever and I am reminded of his all the others sacrifices everyday. I can see the big man and ol’ Saint Peter himself both holding their sides from laughing with him. He was truly one of a kind and I am very proud to have known him and be able to say that I served along side such an amazing man and friend."
SSG David Spooner of Kannapolis, NC
"Dearest Mark-- It has been almost 3 years since God called you home. Dad and Stephanie and Paul and I are left behind... We are trying to be brave and strong like you, but we still have so many bad days. We miss you so much, we are so proud to be your family, and we will always love you.
This was engraved on the tombstone of a British soldier who was killed serving his country in World War II "The sword that slays the warrior stays forever in the hearts of those who love him" How very true...
Until we meet again son, keep watching over us and help us to be reasonably happy in this life, and pray for us so that we may all be supremely happy,together again, in the next life with you in heaven.
You are my son, my warrior, my angel...
Love you always, forever and ever,
Mom xxx ooo"
Proud mom of Pfc. Mark A. Barbret of Shelby Twp. MI.
"I know it has been too long... but I feel the obligation to leave something. in tears I write this. Four yrs. ago I lost a friend, a brother! Still to this day I cannot hear bagpipes or gun salutes without breaking out in tears... even typing this I cry... I miss everything about him. His family, our friends, and the times we shared. Death is such a weakness, yet a strength we all share. For we all must suffer the loss of a loved one... this is so hard for me... but I still love and miss him. A friend and brother like him comes along once in a lifetime... and I lost him. From this point on... my goal in life is to see him once again... and no matter what I will do whatever it takes to be with him once again.
I love you and miss you,
my friend and Brother,
I will see you again.
Larry Blank"
Larry Blank of Clinton Twp., MI/Raleigh, NC
"My prayers are with you"
Heather V of wyomig Mi.
"My prayers are with you"
Heather V of wyomig Mi.
"To the family and friends of PFC Mark Barbret,
I can only hope that I can live up to be half the soldier Mark was. Though I never knew him in life, you can not imagine the profound effect he has had on me.He has shown me that the greatest glory I could ever imbue upon myself, would be to die for my country. He showed me what it truly meant to be an American, a friend, and a good person.
I love you Mark, and the rest of your family and friends."
Tony Sierawski of Sterling Hts, MI
"My Dearest Mark,
I miss you son. My heart just aches. All I can do is replay all the fun times we had together. I remember the laughter and tickle fights. The times that we talked, the way you told one of your many stories and how you would act them out. I miss you comming to Devins softball games. Without you there is an emptieness in my heart. You and Michael were like two peas in a pod. And Dana really misses your wonderful bear hugs. She's also upset with you because you won't be there to walk her down the aisle with Devin and Michael. Thank you for loving and accepting me for who I am. I loved you the minute that you were born, and I loved you when I gave you to the Barbrets. I'll never stop loving you. Mark, I am reminded of you each and everyday. When the sun shines in my eyes, I think of you in Gods presence. When I see butterflies, I think of your free spirit. When I feel the soft wind on my face, I know that you are sending me a kiss. Forever in my heart, I love you son.
Your Mom Karen Raymond xoxoxoxoxo"
Karen Raymond of Clinton Twp, Michigan
"This Saturday is the 2nd anniversary of Marks death, I'll do exactly what I did last year. In my robe, and house slippers, go to the middle of my front yard, where the flag pole he asked to plant, ( " if something happens " ), is and lower it to half staff for him. I'll pause look up, and cry. No, freedom isn't free. There it will remain for the day.
Neighbors may wonder, some will know why. Those that ask, thats when I'm honored most. I'll tell of PFC Mark A. Barbret, what he meant to me, what he meant to his loving family, and what he, without hesitation, gave for freedom.
I met this beautiful man at boot camp graduation, knew the second I saw him, I loved him, and always would. I admired, so much, his wonderful parents, Kim & Angie. I was overwhelmed to be in the midst of what I had dreamnt of so long.
Mark made it easy with his presence, he was the glue. This potentially uncomfortable situation placed at ease by an exceptional young soldier, and the unconditional love of his mother & father.
I met Mark, kissed his cheek, hugged him, told him I loved him, and walked away. This was a time for family to celebrate, not a time to be distracted by someone who was in reality a stranger. Besides, there would always be tomorrow, right ? He would surely come visit. We would hang out, get to know each other, drink a beer, throw the football. How could I know ? Now the flag pole is a referance point in the pass plays I run with my 11 year old.
I have the last letter I wrote him in my chest drawer, unopened. How can any of us know.
Mark, I love you, I'll forever miss our, " tomorrow ".
God bless you Kim & Angie.
Till we meet again."
Zane A. Ziegelmann of West Point, Mississippi
"Dearest Mark, It has been almost 2 years since you gave your life for our great country-- I miss you so much, I am so proud of you, and I Love you-- until we meet again, I pray I can live my life with the same abundance of strength and dignity that you went off to war with... you have taught me so much son. xxx ooo"
Proud mom of Pfc. Mark A. Barbret of Shelby Twp. MI.
"Today I happen upon Romeo Cemetary,I was in awe of the Civil War monument as you come in.For some reason I chose to keep driving,something lead me to Mark's grave like a beacon of light.I got out of my Jeep and was taking back by all the patriotic symbolisms.I did not know Mark but started to get tears in my eyes.When I came home I put Mark's name in my computer hopeful to find out more about this wonderful person.Now I too get it.I hope we all get it as Americans.It was not that I never heard of Mark's plight,it was in the back of my head.So many deaths so many sacrifices for our great country.We as Americans must never forget these fallen hero's and their bravery.To Mark's family I wish you all peace.I now know more about Mark and am the better for it.I think the Lyrics of this Enya song might help bring comfort to all in your family.
IF I could be where you are:
Where are you this moment?
only in my dreams.
You're missing,but you're always
a heartbeat from me.
I'm lost now without you,
I don't know where you are.
I keep watching,I keep hoping,
but time keeps us apart.
Is there a way I can find you,
Is there a sign I should know,
Is there a road I could follow
to bring you back home?
Winter lies before me
now you're so far away.
In the darkness of my dreaming
the light of you will stay
If I could be close beside you
If I could be where you are
If I could reach out and touch you
and bring you back home
Is there a way I can find you
Is there a sign I should know
Is there a road I can follow
to bring you back home to me
God Bless"
Jeffrey S.Gemmell of Rochester Hills,MI.U.S.A
"Today I happen upon Remeo Cemetary,I was in awe of the Civil War monument as you come in.For some reason I chose to keep driving,something lead me to Mark's grave like a beacon of light.I got out of my Jeep and was taking back by all the patriotic symbolisms.I did not know Mark but started to get tears in my eyes.When I came home I put Mark's name in my computer hopeful to find out more about this wonderful person.Now I too get it.I hope we all get it as Americans.It was not that I never heard of Mark's plight,it was in the back of my head.So many deaths so many sacrifices for our great country.We as Americans must never forget these fallen hero's and their bravery.To Mark's family I wish you all peace.I now know more about Mark and am the better for it.I think the Lyrics of this Enya song might help bring comfort to all in your family.
IF I could be where you are:
Where are you this moment?
only in my dreams.
You're missing,but you're always
a heartbeat from me.
I'm lost now without you,
I don't know where you are.
I keep watching,I keep hoping,
but time keeps us apart.
Is there a way I can find you,
Is there a sign I should know,
Is there a road I could follow
to bring you back home?
Winter lies before me
now you're so far away.
In the darkness of my dreaming
the light of you will stay
If I could be close beside you
If I could be where you are
If I could reach out and touch you
and bring you back home
Is there a way I can find you
Is there a sign I should know
Is there a road I can follow
to bring you back home to me
God Bless"
Jeffrey S.Gemmell of Rochester Hills,MI.U.S.A
"Mark...You always made us laugh! I remember one night while coaching your roller hockey team when you said the funniest thing. You always got penalties and I had to threaten you to get you to behave. There was another player on the other team who needed just one more penalty and he would be kicked out. He was a hack and we really wanted him out of the game. I told you to go out there and bug and him and say whatever you had to in order to get him kicked out...without you getting a penalty yourself. You went out and followed him (you were always the fastest skater)taunting him the entire time. You came back and panting you said, "Coach...I tried everything! I used every Yo Mama joke in the book and the kid won't crack!" We all died laughing!
There were also the times when you were extremely thoughtful. You were the only one of my brother's friend's who knocked on the door. We told you repeatedly that you didn't have to knock, but said that you had to! One day you knocked on the door and when I answered you were jumping up and down like the wrestlers, all excited. You had seen Darren McCarty of the Red Wings and you knew he was my favorite. You followed him to McDonalds and got an autographed photo of him for me and then rushed over with it! I thought that was the neatest thing!
Then there was the time you guys broke my bed! My mom and I were watching something on tv in my room and a bucnh of you came running in and jumped on my bed! The foot of my bed bent and went down a few inches from the weight. You had brought over a video tape of The Rock for me to see and we all watched it in my room with my mom!
Mark, you were always like a little brother to me. An annoying little brother most of the time, but then a very caring thoughtful brother when it mattered the most! I miss you and will always love you!"
Corinne Evans "Coach" of Shelby Township, MI
"thank you so much. i know a lot of you don't know this but Mark was my big brother. my mom Karen Raymond was his biological mother. but she had to give him up for adoption when he was a baby. we met back up with him when he was 18. so i never got to spend his childhood years with him and i don't have as many memories of him as Angie and Kim Barbret do but i miss him just as much and i cherish the memories i do have.
i love you Mark!!!!"
Dana Raymond of Clinton Twp
"I first met mark about 5-6 years ago. We hung out in the same crowd. Always playing pool at Mis Q's. I only knew him for a short period of time. Maybe a year or so, and people in the group started to branch out and go thier seperate ways. I often thought of Mark, it was his amazing sense of humor and the way he could capture a crowd that got me. Then again, he had a very serious side - when it came to his son. He once sat and told me about the relationship he had with his then newborn son. It made me think, this is a man with passion. To live life with such a great attitude, almost seeming to be "careless" at times, yet with such passion and determination when it came to the things that mattered. I only knew him for a short time, and he made such an impression on me, I know he is truly missed. I saw it for a few brief moments then, and I see it forever now, Mark Barbret is a hero."
Stacy Smith of Harrison Twp, MI
"To the family of Mark A. Barbret, I am so sorry for the loss of your love one. He died a hero defending freedom. may you have the peace and understanding that only comes from God. Hopefully we will all meet in Heaven one day where we will rest in the arms of Jesus. If you need prayer or need someone to talk to please call or write my pastor at Gateway Community Church: Rev John B Pearrell 11677 Brown Bridge Road Covington Ga. 30016. your friend in Jesus Christ"
Polly Ballew of Covington Ga
"Soldier Barbret,
I salute you!
forever indebted to you,"
Angela of Fort Worth, Texas
"To the family and friends of Mark,
I have heard many great and amazing things about Mark Barbret, from my fiancee that is deployed still with the 44th Eng. BN in ar Ramadi Iraq. Some give all, and I am so greatful for the men like Mark and my fiancee that step up and are willing to give it all in the blink of an eye."
Fiancee of SPC William T. Montgomery, Amanda of Monett, Missouri
"mark,
YOU WERE MOST THAN A FRIEND, MORE LIKE A BIG BROTHER. WE HAD SO MANY GOOD TIMES AND I'LL NEVER FORGET YOU. I'M SO PROUD OF YOU AND YOU WILL BE MISSED SO MUCH."
DUSTY, PHIL, PHILIP JR. AND DOMINICK of WARREN, MI USA
"Mark you were a good friend. A hero in everyones book. One that had no fear and the willing to move on. You conqured what many fear and took pride in what you stood for. Now that you are gone, you will be GREATLY missed... MARK , I WILL NEVER FORGET THE DAYS AT EISENHOWER HIGH SCHOOL ( Auto Shop ). My condolences go out to Marks family and loved ones.. Keep us safe Mark. We love you .........."
Paul T. Zettel Jr. of Eisenhower High School <> Shelby Twp. <> MI
"Mark, I think back to the year of 2000 when we graduated from Eisenhower and it seams as if it was yesterday when we walked across that stage at the Palace. I can't believe that this happened to you. Christian will always know that his daddy was a hero.
I am speechless and choked up. Thank you and god bless you and your family."
Carl Milodrowski of Macomb Twp, Michigan
"Mark-
I never got the chance to tell you how proud I was of you but I allways have been.I thankfully had the honor to know you and share the joys of our son together.I will Never let him forget you, he will allways know you're a HERO. Thank you for everything you did for our country and our son.We love and miss you very much."
Nicole and your Baby Boy Christian of Shelby Twp MI
"To Mark and his family,
Though I don't know you personally, I am the same age as Mark. So it saddens me to know he lost his life at such a young age. I heard his story on the news. His sacrifice is immeasurable, and I'm grateful for it, as the whole community is."
Annette W. of Sterling Heights, MI
"I don’t believe that we understand all that you gave, or how your sacrifice will affect the future for our sons or daughters. I believe you confronted the evil that has enslaved mankind throughout history, the same evil that many American soldiers have confronted in many battles.
I will teach my son and daughter of your sacrifice and your heroism.
Proud Family of Pfc. Kohler serving in Ar Ramadi, Iraq"
Anderson Family of Montana
"Mark U r a hero in a way that many people will never know U have sacrifice ur life and ur time. As man u realize that u wanted to serve your country and u did by giving yourself to it and that is special. I too was in Iraq and knew of the trials and tribulation that come with sacrifice and decision that u made, I respect u and love as a brother in armsand as a man. To the parents your son was a great man and person. I know there is no words that will make u happy but if u pray for the 180,000 soldier over in Iraq and that is going the great man u loss will make sure to bless u with all the fruit that come with prayer and happines"
SFC MAY of clinton township,mi
"Mark U r a hero in a way that many people will never know U have sacrifice ur life and ur time. As man u realize that u wanted to serve your country and u did by giving yourself to it and that is special. I too was in Iraq and knew of the trials and tribulation that come with sacrifice and decision that u made, I respect u and love as a brother in armsand as a man. To the parents your son was a great man and person. I know there is no words that will make u happy but if u pray for the 180,000 soldier over in Iraq and that is going the great man u loss will make sure to bless u all the fruit that come with prayer and happines"
"SO SORRY TO READ THIS. WE ARE SURE HE WILL BE SADLY MISSED"
LEE of MEMPHIS MI
"Mark,
Tho we have never met, you are truly my brother, For we have served in the eternal band of Brothers, Veterans.
You have shown the courage and intensity in your service to our country,you have given your life for the betterment of mankind. Although we will never understand why there has to be wars over things that never should get so far out of line, we go, we answer the call, we serve. Some give all. You have shown the courage of a hero and you will never be forgotten. For generations your name will be there to view for all who pass this way in Sterling Heights.
Till we meet someday in Paradise
God be with you
Mike Adragna, Sterling Heights
War Memorial Committee"
Mike Adragna of Sterling Heights, MI
"Thank you Mark for defending the freedom that my children will grow up in. You are that bright star that sparkles above and you will be remembered each day we raise our flag in the front yard. From a very grateful American family."
The Shaw family of Pasadena, Maryland
"Mark,
You were more than a friend to me you were a like a brother. I still cant believe your gone, it seems like just yesterday I met you at McDonalds. I keep thinking about all the crazy things we did. We stole orange construction barrels just for the light, there was drunk sleeding, and a whole bunch of other crazy stuff I can't mention. I remeber when we'd close at Mcd's, we'd stuff 20 piece boxes full of nuggets and go to your house and play countless hours of video games. I remeber you came up with the craziest names for Paul and Steph, Like stench, pork, tons of fun, and the one Paul hated the most Fats. But aside from that you were still a very great brother to them, you wanted the best for them and they looked up to you. I miss you so much. We did a fair share of partying to, you used to say I dont come to partys, I bring the party. It seemed when I was with you I always had a good time. I remember when I was going through a rough time in my life and I felt like there was no one I could talk to about the situation, thats when you shinned through the most. You came through and made me realize that everything would work out, and you were so right, and during those times you also made me temporaly forget about those things and we had a good time also. I could just right for hours about how great of a friend and a person you were, but theres so much to say. I'll never forget the last time I talked to you, you said "I'm so glad I got a hold of you." I'm glad you did too. I remeber you asked me to keep looking out for Christian and Nichole, you said "I love the little guy.", and you also thanked me for being there for them. Theres just so much I'm thankful for, but the thing I'm the most thankful for the most is: I'm thankful I met someone like you.
Your friend and Brother Tom Siecinski Jr."
Tom Siecinski of Shelby Twp.
"mellisa that was beautiful
mark looks at that and smiles because of the words you have said. trust me its so hard to still to this day think of what happened to the family.
love you bro
paulie"
paul of howe in
"Mark,
I will forever hold my memories of you close to my heart.
I will forever hear your hysterical laugh when I told you the "funny monster-birthday cake-eating" story about 200 times when we were younger.
I will forever remember watching you play T-Ball that one particular summer.
I will forever remember our smart remarks & wise cracks when we used to ride to catechism together.
I will forever remember your mom making you sit still long enough to get your picture taken with Santa because of Paul & Steph (and the sarcastic grin that went along with that!)
I will forever remember that leather coat & DMX charm you used to wear on your chain.
I will forever remember your handsome smile & the way you ALWAYS made us laugh.
I will forever remember the last time I saw you, the fun we had, & the "rug that you cut", (dancing)
I will forever remember the fear & sadness I felt that night knowing that soon you would be headed off to war.
I will forever remember the PAIN I felt upon hearing of your death, and the PAIN I still feel & always will.
But, I will forever remember that you gave your life doing what you wanted to do & the fact that you are braver than anybody I have & will ever know.
I will forever be proud of you.
I will forever miss you.
I will forever love you.
Your Cousin, Melissa"
of Roseville, MI
"To the Family of Mark
I am free. I am comfortable and warm and happy in my life. I will never feel the effects of the war in iraq directly. I will never have to run from bullets or wonder if I will eat tomorrow. I live in Ypsilanti in a nice apartment with my fiance and my two cats. I have a good job, and I, like many of my friends, voted in this last election. I've complained and laughed, and talked about the candidates and the issues. All of these things I owe to your son. No words can express the gift that Mark have given me. His reward is paradise."
Shelby Dupuie of Ypsilanti, Mi
"Private Barbret, goodbye soldier and thank you. You are my hero."
Bill of Houston, Texas
"mark, a hero, an american man, not scared to do anything, a leader for the young. i would know. i am Paul Barbret marks little brother and i would like to thank everyone who left a message for the family. i know it is hard, but i believe we can all hold eachothers hands and make the best out of it. we all know mark and love him and we know he would want us too. mark we will see eachother one day till then guide the family and remeber the good ol times
love you big brother, best friend, and a true american
PAULIE
miss ya bro"
paul marks brother of Howe IN
"Mark,
Looking up at the stars in the clear dark sky last night and feeling deep sadness, I remembered something I had read, which said: "Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones shines down to let us know they are with us."
Thanks for sending me your flash of star light to let me know you made your passage to the other side. I love you."
Aunt Charlotte of Roseville, MI
"To Mark's Family and Friends:
On behalf of the Blanco-Caldas family, we send our sincerest condolences. We share the same loss ... the same pain. Our prayers are with you in this most difficult time and we thank you for your soldier's bravery and sacrifice.
Sincerely,
The Family of Capt. Ernesto M. Blanco-Caldas, 82nd Airborne
KIA Iraq 12/28/2003.
Gloria Caldas (The Big Ern's Mom) of San Antonio, TX
gloria.caldas@banksterling.com"
"I never had the pleasure or the honor of meeting Mark but as I watched his story on the news it touched me deeply. He was no doubt an incredible young man. I am sorry that he had to leave you and leave behind his son. But I pray that you can take comfort in the fact that your son is a very brave man who gave his life doing something that he believed in. I cannot thank him enough for his sacrifice. Because of him, I am free to tuck my son in at night and feel safe every morning when I wake up.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. May God bless and watch over your family."
Jerri of Inkster, MI
"To the Barbret Family I love you with all my heart. Even though I'm hundreds of miles away you are in my thoughts every day. I will always remember Mark as the little blonde haired boy running around full of energy with a dragon in his wagon and a goat in his boat. I love you!"
Jenner Spieles of Jackson Hole, WY
"I never got to know Mark, but I heard a lot about him from his dad, Kim, my best work buddy. I was impressed when I heard Mark was joining the Army. My son had just joined the Navy and the fact that these young kids going in the service to defend thier country really impressed me. Kim and I honored our sons at work by placing there names and American flags on some exposed duct-work so we could see them every day. I met Mark for the first time at the funeral home where his grandpa Barbret was laid out. I met him again at his sister, Stephanie's high school graduation party last June which also became a going away party for Mark who left the next day to go back to Korea. Even though I didn't really know him well he became a hero to me when I first learned he had joined the Army. He became a giant hero to me when I learned of his death on October 17th while I was away in North Carolina. Mark, I am proud to have know you and you will never be forgotten."
Daryl Garrison of Rochester Hills, MI
"(This was read aloud at the prayer service for Mark on Friday, October 22.)
Hi, I am Jim Barbret, I am Mark’s cousin on the Barbret side of the family. I was asked to speak first about any of memories that I wanted to share concerning Mark. Since I am first, you know that it can only get better from here on out.
Where do I begin, well I guess I’ll start at my earliest memories of the little guy. I remember how excited I was about the addition of Mark to our family. You see, on the Barbret side of the family, we have ten grandchildren and by age, there is a natural separation. The first five grandchildren were all born in the 1970’s and the next five were all born in the 1980’s. Mark was the first grandchild born in the 1980’s. Now I was too small to remember any of the details of the 70’s grandchildren as babies, but I remember just about everything about Mark as a baby. He was totally awesome. He was funny, rambunctious, and into everything. I remember Aunt Lois taking Victor, Jennifer, Scott and I out to Kim and Angie’s because she was watching Mark while Kim and Angie were on vacation. We all, including Mark, slept on the floor in their living room in Romeo and I remember waking up in the morning and seeing Mark open his eyes, pop his head up from under the blankets, and scream out “I’m Waking Up” and go right into overdrive for the rest of the day. Between two and three years old everyone in the world to Mark was a monkey-butt. I don’t know where he got that, but it sure was cute. Mark’s antics made him the highlight of all the family parties for the next decade.
I remember what a good little kid he was too. Mark was about five years old, I think, and my dad, Scott and I were helping Kim work on one of the infamous “portable” houses that Kim planned on moving into when he decided to leave Romeo. Mark had to use the bathroom and my Uncle Dave only lived a couple of blocks away from the house that we working on. My dad volunteered me to take Mark there. I remember all the way Mark kept trying to hold my hand as we walked. Me being the cool teenager I was, kept telling him, “hey just walk next to me man, big boys don’t hold hands” but Mark didn’t listen, he just kept reaching for my hand until we got to Dave’s and then all the way back to the house again. I am so glad now that he didn’t listen to me.
He was athletic as heck too. Kim and Angie moved a block away from us when Mark was about 10 or 11, I think. Mark used to ride his bike over every once in awhile to our house. Now, I was always kind of disappointed that the younger grandkids never took to much of an interest in baseball, but when I saw him kicking a soccer ball around with my sister’s friend, Jay, I was totally impressed. Mark and Jay were playing keep away from Scott and I and making us look pathetic in the process. I never thought it took any talent to play that soccer, but then again I had some growing up to do. Spiky-yellow haired Mark was about half our sizes but he moved like a rabbit and really had the moves.
In recent years, Mark moved out to Shelby. We still saw him pretty regularly though. Mark, even when he was a teenager, always had time for the family. Mark was never one to hide in the basement at family functions watching TV, he was always in the middle of all of the conversations. Even when his friends were around, Mark wasn’t to cool to joke around with his Uncle and Aunts and fuddy-duddy old cousins. As the older grandkids started getting married and having kids, Mark would make a point out of driving over to all of our houses just to visit and talk. Mark ended up becoming close with our respective spouses and our friends. Before Mark joined the army, he became a “regular weekend visitor”. I remember waking up at about 3AM, one morning to the sounds of load pounding on the door, honking horns, and voices yelling “JIM, JIM, JIMMY BARBRET” and “c’mon he’s not home, let’s go”. Unfortunately that night, I didn’t make it downstairs in time, but thankfully I did plenty of other times, at more REASONABLE times of the evening.
One of the more tragic things that happened in the last few years that hit all of us very hard was the death of my Grandpa Barbret. I remember at the service, how tough it was to take to see someone so loved, gone. I remember throughout the days surrounding Grandpa’s passing, how our family came together and everyone seemed to realize a whole new level of caring that one never gets to see in quieter times. Mark was right there with grieving with all of us and seemed to always be there with a joke or something goofy to say to help us start to smile again.
I remember when I heard Mark was joining the army, I thought it was a good idea. I thought he would be good at it too, which turned out to be true. I remember when Kim brought a video tape to Grandma’s House for us to watch on a Sunday night in April of last year. It was of Mark in basic training showing some of the drills he was required to go through. I couldn't believe how good of shape he had gotten into. I remember hitting the gym super hard for the next few months after I saw that tape so that when Mark came home, he wouldn’t get any bright ideas of taking me on.
I don’t want to be too long winded here. So I should probably wrap it up. It’s got to be about the toughest thing in the world to imagine a world without Marky. It just seems so wrong to have to go so soon. His passing leaves us all with such an incomplete feeling. His life was full though it was short, I think you can see that by just looking around at the faces of the people in this room that knew and loved him. Also take a look if you get a chance at all of the well-wishers online, and in the papers, and on TV that didn’t even know him, but love him for what he has given up so that we can continue on with our daily lives. I can’t believe how many people have come up to me, at work, with tears in their eyes and condolences for Kim and Angie and Paul and Stephanie and Christian. Mark’s time with us was far to short by our standards but he has etched a mark on our family which will not be forgotten for generations. Our grandchildren’s children, will want to learn about the hero in their own family and will hunger for all the information that we have about him. So keep his memory alive by speaking of him when ever you can, print out everything you can regarding Mark and pray for his family that their hearts may be soothed in time. Uncle Kim, with your awesome sense of humor you have always kept this family in stitches and Aunt Angie with all the love you have in your heart, you have always been one of the most approachable people I know. We, as your friends and family will help you get through this and you will know happy times again.
I love you Marky, may we meet again soon and I’ll buy the beers (oh excuse me, sorry about that, wine coolers)"
Jim Barbret of Roseville, MI
"My thoughts are with your family at this time of loss. We as a family are still dealing with the loss of my son Spc. Donald McCune, who died August 5, 2004. Knowing the pain you are going through hurts me too. Our sons are heroes and will be missed by many. I myself have found comfort in knowing my son died doing what he loved and for his country. To many of our young today don't understand where freedon comes from, our boys knew. May you know that all military families grieve with you. Again my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
I still am a proud military wife and mother."
Darcy Lewis of Ann Arbor, MI
"Heroism is a much higher attainment than anything that occurs in sports. To be a hero requires taking risks and exposing yourself to jeopardy. Heroism requires nobility of purpose, some goal that is outside your own self-interest. And heroism may require sacrifice. Today we are sad by the loss of another Hero."
Carey Layne of North Port, FL
"The last time I saw Mark, he was galloping down the streets of Seattle, laughing with my son Nicholas...his cousin, as they celebrated just 'hanging out together' before Mark had to fly to Korea. At the airport...all three of us cried...Me, Mark and Nick....but we said we loved each other and were going to count the days until Mark came back to the U.S.
Well, we heard six weeks ago that Mark was going to Iraq before coming home. While this was not good news, we knew that Mark was a good, strong soldier who had trained hard and loved his country. Surely he would be back within the year.
Then, I got a call last Friday at 5am (Seattle time)from my sister in Michigan telling me that a local TV station was reporting that Mark had been killed when his Humvee hit a roadside bomb.
This wasn't supposed to happen. Mark was supposed to come home, raise his son Christian and go to college. He even talked with my son about applying to U of W so the two of them could 'get a really cool condo in Seattle and take classes'.
That was Mark. Making others laugh and cheering us up...when he was facing a very uncertain and potentially dangerous next two years. He never showed fear or one ounce of doubt. His country needed him and he was gong to be there...no reservations. He was a selfless young man who was going to do whatever it took to provide for his baby son and put himself through University when he got back. He was so excited about learning how to work on Humvees. Mark was full of plans for the future and bursting with a love of life and people in general. He had a light in him that warmed you when you were in his presence.
There is gong to be a flagpole erected in Mark's family's front yard to honor Mark's wish that 'If anything happens to me over there...put a flag in the yard and fly Old Glory for me'.
That flag will be flying Mark..and your light will never go out.
The Barbret family and the country have lost a remarkable young man.
We love you Mark.
Aunt Suzie and Cousin Nicholas"
Ms. Suzette Lisuk of Bellingham, Washington, USA
"Heroes do it for the love of their family
Heroes do it for the love of their country
Heroes do not wait to be called
Heroes volunteer
Mark was a hero"
Fleser family of Columbus Mich.
"I am a veteran of the U.S. Air Force and a Michigan resident. I have recently heard the sad news of the sacrifice Mark made for his country and his family. as well, my cousin Casey e-mailed me and told me of this website. My heartfelt sympathy and gratitude goes out to everyone who knew and loved Mark. I didn't know Mark as a person, but I know he was someone who cared and loved and sacrificed for his country. I thank you for raising a son like Mark, he is truly a HERO. It is people like Mark that make this country great! I cannot imagine the loss you must feel at this awful time. Nor can I presume that with sincere words and a humble heart that I can offer you any comfort, but I am truly sorry for your loss and your family will be in my prayers. God Bless You and Comfort You and again thank you for Mark and what he stood for."
Kenny Layne of Southgate, MI./United States
"To Mark's Family,
I am writing to tell you how sorry i am for your loss. My cousin, Casey Fleser e-mailed me and told me of Mark. I am a 20 year vetran and i can appreciate all the training and sacrafices that Mark made for us. He is truely a Hero. Thank you for raising a son like Mark that would risk himself for the safety of all of us and our country. You as well as Mark are in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless You!!"
Dale Layne of Garfield Hts, Ohio
"We Will NEVER FORGET !"
Please KNOW so many people share your sadness, and we are remembering your family in your loss and your deep grief. Your HERO, Mark, will be remembered by name. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. God Bless you ALWAYS. Pat & Sandi Breckenridge from Montana "
"I am related to Casey Fleser and want you to know that I asked God to give you comfort that only He can give in this time of great sorrow for your family."
Shirley Harper of Chattanooga, Tn.
"To Mark's Family:
There are no words to express the sorrow we feel for your loss. May God bless you and help you through this time."
Dan and Meg Manninen of San Antonio, Texas
"My deepest sympathy, our family has also suffered the loss of a precious life in this battle for freedom. May God bless you and help you through this time. Forever in our hearts a HERO Mark A. Barbret."
Amy & Aaron Monier of Waterford, MI.
"I can't begin to express how sorry I am to hear of your loss. I'm sorry too that I never really got a chance to get to know Mark, but Dad has told me what a wonderful guy he was and knowing that he was willing to put himself in harm's way to fight for the things we hold dear makes him seem to me nothing short of a hero. Everyone I've spoken to, whether they know you or not, has told me to pass along their condolences and appreciation for the sacrifice Mark has made for us all. He was a true patriot and his sacrifice will never be forgotten. Our thoughts and prayers and prayers are with you."
The Fleser Family of La Vergne, TN
"Thank you Mark Barbret, you will not be forgotten. Your bravery goes beyond words. I want to express my deepest gratitude for your sacrifice. To the family and friends, my prayers and deep condolences in your loss. May God strengthen you from knowing that fellow Americans and people around the world care about you and grieve with you in your loss. God bless you all. A very appreciative fellow American,"
Leo Titus of Grayslake, Illinios
"To the family and friends of Pfc. Mark Barbret:
May God's grace be with you during your time of grief. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and we feel your loss and share in your sorrow. Bless Mark for the sacrifice he has made to make a better life for the rest of us."
The Ford Family of Wells, Nevada
"To the family and friends of Pfc. Mark Barbret:
I am saddened by the loss of your loved one. He will always be remembered as a hero for fighting for freedom. I hope that this website will be a source of comfort and encouragement for you during this difficult time, and in the future as you recall the memories of Mark, who continues to live on in your heart."
Tim Rivera of Powder Springs, Georgia