Fallen Heroes of Operation Iraqi Freedom

Remembering the servicemembers who died in the service of their country.

Marine Lance Cpl. Alan Dinh Lam


19, of Snow Camp, North Carolina.
Killed in a non-hostile accident with two other soldiers when a rocket-propelled grenade launcher they were firing for familiarization malfunctioned on a firing range near the city of Al Kut, Iraq. He was assigned to the 8th Communication Battalion, 10th Marine Regiment, 2nd Marine Expeditionary Brigade, Camp Lejeune, North Carolina. Died on April 22, 2003.

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"You will always be the best friend I have ever known."
Joseph E Perkins III of Wimauma Florida

"Adam,Brenda,Amanda,Mel,Andrea and Ana I am so sorry for your loss. I was searching for years for all of you when I came across this and broke down crying. Alan was such a great kid I still am speechless and in shock. Alan I love you little guy. I don't even know what to say except I hope you are resting in peace friend and know that you will never be forgotten. but know this we will meet again someday. I wish I had known something sooner. Brenda and Adam my prayers are with you and your family."
Victor Otero of Santa fe, TX

"Still thinking of you on our Marine Corps Birthday and today... Veterans Day. Sure do miss you.
11/11/15"
Cpl. M. Hunnell of 8th Comm Bn of Fl

"Remembering you, as always, this weekend. Thank you Alan. Semper Fidelis"
Cpl. M. Hunnell of 8th Comm Bn

"Another year has passed but you are not forgotten. Never forgotten.

Semper Fidelis Marine."
Cpl. Hunnell of 8th Comm Bn of Florida

"Hey uncle al i miss you so much i wish i could have seen your face i luv u and miss you sooooo much."
Dilan.kim.nabounpaeng of Pittsboro nc

"i BOUT 1 HR IT WILL BE YOUR BIRTHDAY AND YOU ARE SO MISSED BY ALL OF US WE LOVE YOU HAPPY BIRTHDAY"
DEBBIE ROONEY of SPRINGFIELD MA

"For some reason, I have always been kind of interested in Alan. His pictured appeared in People Magazine that honored the fallen Soldiers.His picture was a few rows above my cousin's photo. Since that day I've kept his family and loved ones in my prayers. Even up till this day. I'm sure they both have met already in heaven."
Michelle of Texas

"Semper Fidelis Alan."
Cpl. Hunnell of 8th Comm Bn of WV

"Alan,
Please forgive that I haven't have the courage to talk to your family. It's been almost 10 years and to tell you the truth, loosing you is one of the hardest things I have to go thru. You were my best roommate ever. I wish I could have took you to visit my family just like we went to meet yours. They were great and for that I will always be grateful. I still cry everytime I have a moment alone and you cross my mind. I think this is the year I try to call, but so you know I still don't know what to say. I miss you brother and I will never forget about you."
Lugo, Ovi of Tampa,FL

"My prayers be with you and your family.
Alan ~ we grieve on earth, but know all you have is Glory, Joy, Peace, and Happiness now.
Thank you for the Ultimate Sacrifice"
A Sister in Christ ~ A Military Spouse Retired of Home of the 82nd Airborne NC

"Alan,
Whats going on my brother. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you. You are that guy that everybody liked. You had a way of motivating the wayward. True leader is a guy like you who at the time was the youngest member of our platoon, but you had older men looking up to you. Wise beyond you years. Like Sgt Neese said bellow, future Sgt Major. I knew you since boot-camp, different platoons, but same company. A few times in boot-camp I was able to conversant with you and you became a friend. Then MCT we ended up in the same platoon, good time in the hooch, life of the party. After MOS school I came to the unit and the first face who turned around to say hi to me was yours, it was such a relief to see a friendly face in a new and scary place. many more memories to come after that, we had a blast in our crew. The peak of my life and the times I look back on and smile. See you soon brother. Never Forgotten, Semper Fi
Sgt Dolan, USMC"
Michael Dolan of Phoenix, Arizona

"Still thinking of you buddy. Miss you a lot."
Cpl. Hunnell of 8th Comm Bn now in WV

"Today marks year number 9 and it seems like only yesterday!I wonder if you were still here with us what you would be doing,how you would look.I still go in your room just to smell the tee shirt that you wore that still smells just like you! And I pray to every God I can think of to PLEASE BRING MY BABY BACK TO ME! I love you Alan (MOM)"
Brenda Lam, of Snow Camp, N.C.

"November 10, 2011 (Today)
Today is the 336th birthday of the Marine Corps.
Happy Birthday Devil Dog! Im sure you are celebrating where ever you are at.

Tomorrow on Veterans Day Ill be thinking of you as I watch the Colors pass by in the local parade.
Miss you buddy."
Cpl. M. Hunnell 8th Comm BN of West Virginia

"Happy Independence Day Brother. I love and miss you everyday. Thank you for your ultimate sacrifice. Watch over us. Wish you could have met your nephew Gunner."
Andrea

"From the field, to the ship, to the sand, seemed you were always giving 110% and still had jokes to crack and smiles to give.

You are not forgotten.
Semper Fidelis, Marine.
Sgt. Cummings
8th Comm. Svc Co."
Bennett Cummings of San Diego, Ca

"8 years today brother. Still think about you daily. Gone but never forgotten."
Cpl. Hunnell of Morgantown, WV

"11/18/10
2 DAYS LATE WITH MY POST...HAPPY BIRTHDAY LIL BRO. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU SO MUCH. IT DOESN'T SEEM LIKE ALMOST 8 YRS ALREADY. WE LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU."
ANNA

"08/21/10
hey lil bro..It has been a while. Me and the boys miss you so much. They ask about you all the time. Please touch them and give them some guidence and some of your attitude. I love you and miss you, can't believe it has been almost 7 and a half years. Time has come and gone. The boys still pick there nose just like you taught them before you left. I like to remind them of that. I love you and miss you."
Anna Lam-Dornhecker of Aberdeen, NC

"I miss you:'("
Leah of ny

"06/02/10
Hi Alan,
As time pass, all I could do is think about you. Til this day, everything I do reminds me of you. I hope all is well up there and that you will continue to shine your light upon us. Until we meet again... I love you and I miss you.
Love Always (Your one and only)
DITHA"
Ditha of Burlington NC

"It's Memorial Day 2010 & your sacrifice is remembered with sincere gratitude. Thank you, Bo, for serving your country."
Nancy W of Philadelphia, PA

"7 years past....and we miss you everyday . Rest in peace my friend. You truly are a hero..."
jessica of chicago,il

"04-22-10
7 years today brother. Still think about you daily."
Cpl. Hunnell of WV

"You were still just a little kid when I met you. You and your family didn't really know anyone from here when you moved in with Shannon's family. I'm glad to think that I was one of your first friends from NC. I remember us picking on each other a lot, you calling me "Forrest Gump" and me calling you "Bruce Lee Jr." (all in good fun!) Hard to think that that was so long ago and that you've been gone for as long as you have. I think about you every time I hear news about any war. Wish you were here."
David Walters of Greensboro, NC

"Hi Alan, its Auntie Lisa. My goodness the last time I saw you, you hadnt even started Kindergarten yet, and I had just taken the twins with me and your "Uncle" Patrick for the weekend. I brought you back a huge color book and a big box of crayons, you grabbed them, said "thank you Auntie!" and went into the corner of the kitchen to start coloring!!! I keep in touch with mom and the reason I am auntie, my first love your Uncle Brian, and some of your sisters. I think of your family all of the time. I love you little guy, and will always remember the joy and love I felt for you little kids in 1986!!! All my love young Alan...and to all of the family xoxo"
Auntie Lisa of Southbridge MA

"Alan as I read through theses messages I have tears running down my face. I wish you where here I have a lil man now who is almost 3.. And when I was naming him your name came about but it didnt go well with his name Rylan. I truly wish we had keep in touch more. I found Andrea on facebook which did reconnect me with the girls. I still have all those drawings that you drew me and that squeaky rabbit that no longer makes a sound lol you use to pass me drawings in the halls at school lol . I just could never part with those items and I guess there was a reason why..Alan you are on my mind alot its hard not to think about you I remember when anna told u in chorus class I liked you. Please be my guardian angel and watch over my baby and me cause u are a true hero..I know u must be watching over your sisters and all the nieces and nephews. Well you will always be in my thoughts and prayers and so will your family....I miss you and wish we could have reconnected.."
april h of new york

"IT WILL BE 7 YRS ON THE 22ND, STILL SO HARD TO BELIEVE THAT YOU'RE GONE BRO. A LOT HAS CHANGED IN 7 YRS TIME, SOME GOOD, SOME BAD, BUT I GUESS THAT IS THE WAY LIFE IS. I AM SURE YOU HAD MOMENTS LOOKING DOWN ON US LIKE :"WHAT THE HELL?!" BUT YOU KNOW US LAM'S, UNPREDICTABLE AND CRAZY AS HELL. I JUST WANTED TO LEAVE A MESSEGE FOR YOU BRO, ANDFOR THE OTHERS WHO HAVE LEFT MESSAGES AND PRAYERS. I MISS YOU , I DON'T THINK THERE IS ONE DAY I DON'T LIGHT MY INCENSE FOR YOU , SAY GOODNIGHT TO YOU, TO ME , YOU STILL LIVE IN MY HEART, I CANNOT FORGET WHAT YOU STOOD FOR, AND HOW MUCH YOU MEANT TO ME .
FOR THE PEOPLE WHO PRAY AND LEAVE MESSAGES FOR ALAN AND OUR FAMILY, MY DEEPEST GRATITUDES TO YOU ALL. IT MEANS SO VERY MUCH TO MY FAMILY TO SEE AND KNOW THAT ALAN HAS HAD SUCH AN IMPACT ON PEOPLES LIVES BEFORE AND EVEN AFTER DEATH. HE WAS JUST ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH IN AN INSTANT, HE MADE YOU WANT TO DO BETTER, AND HIS INFECTIOUS SPIRIT STILL LIVES TODAY. AGAIN, THANK YOU FOR REMEMBERING ALAN, AND ALL HIS SACRAFICES.
THANK YOU TO ALL OUR TROOPS, THOSE THAT HAVE PASSED AND THOSE WHO ARE STILL LIVING, THANK YOU FOR ALL THAT YOU HAVE DONE AND CONTINUE TO DO, MAY GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU AND KEEP YOU SAFE IN YOUR TRAVELS."
AMANDA LAM-BLACKWELL of KENTUCKY

"alan was like a little brother to me the one thing that i can say about him was that he was always smiling and he use to call my son a used car sales man he will be missed and loved by all the people that he was near"
lori of elon nc

"Dear family member[s]; WE have just obtained a flag which flew briefly in a "field of heroes" sponsored by the Exchange Club here in Greeley, Colorado. This flag specifically honors Cpl. Lam and CWO Channel who died with Cpl. Lam 4/22/03. We will fly this flag faithfully and daily in memory of Cpl. Lam and be ever mindful of his service to us and to our country. May you be blessed by God and the knowledge that He is good and loves us more than we can understand. Posted 4/3/10"
Willis and Evelyn Kulp of Greeley, Colorado

"I miss you Alan. I know we never "hung out" or anything like that, though I wish we had, but I still think about you. Luckily for me, I still remember you from before you left for the sandbox from 8th Comm Bn, SVC Co, ENG Plt. Semper Fi."
PFC Julian C. Kremer of Virginia Beach, VA

"To Alan Lam's Family,

I am from the Vietnamese American Armed Forces Association (VAAFA). We are currently establishing a Fallen Heroes scholarship fund in memory of all the fallen Vietnamese American brothers. We would like to get in contact with a family member when possible or please contact us at vaafa.org@gmail.com or our website at www.vaafa.org"
LT Tin T. Tran of Garden Grove, CA

"I miss you brother. A day doesnt pass that I dont think about you."
Cpl. Hunnell of WV

"RIP LCpl Lam, I was attached to, TFT, the same unit as Lam during OEF/OIF. I had the pleasure of becoming his friend while on a TAD to Spain in 2002. He was a special person and I will never forget him and his dedication to the Corps"
SSgt Kenneth Smith of Atlanta, GA

"Alan,
I was just going through some things today to prepare for an upcoming move, and I came across all of the letters you wrote me from your time in boot camp. I have never been able to read them since your passing, I always remained overwhelmed by guilt and remorse for the hurt I may have caused you. Today I sat and read them; however, and cried as the memories of our time together flooded back into my mind. No matter how much time has passed since the last time I saw you, I have never stopped thinking about you. I have always held a part of you in my heart and mind. You are an amazing person, and left quite an impression on me. As time has passed I have changed, and I never stop thinking how great it would be if you could just meet the person I am today...someday I hope you will. Condolences and love to the Lam family, it's been awhile since we've spoken. I hope you are doing well and you are in my thoughts and prayers.
jra312@gmail.com"
Jennie A. of Chicago, IL

"Well Alan it's 2009 and we're still in trouble. We all miss you so very much. I'm moving soon and I don't want mom to worry. She worries enough about all of us girls. Never the less you are always on her mind. I wish you were here with us to help us through these hard times. You'll be happy to find out that Nicolae has been around more. We all miss you so much..We try to thing things you do or say.. Well atleast I do. I can't begin to tell you how much I love and miss you> Please see me in my dreams. I Love You.. Dre"
Andrea Lam Shaw of Chesapeake.VA

"Alan, I just got to know you when, I came to 8th Comm from the MEU. I will never forget the foot race that we had at the shop just before we all deployed to Kuwait when you beat me. I was not suppossed to let a Lance Cooley do that to me. I will also never forget how much initiative that you showed for a Lance Corporal. To Alan's family and friends, he was an outstanding Marine and a person. He had the single intangible that few actually have and that was carisma. Their is no doubt in my mind that he would have been a Sgt. Major one day if he had chosen to do so. To the Dinh family, I hope you can find solace and I want you to know that your son made a positive impression on me for a life time."
Sgt. Neese of Cleveland, Ga

"Alan, On this Memorial Day, I wish you and your family well. I was with you on April 22, 2003. I tried my best going through congress in an attempt to try and change the catagory of your death to combat related and get your deserved Purlple Heart. Your a great Marine and American my friend. I think of that day often. I only met you that morning but within a few hours, you made a friend for life.
MSG Myles Cappiello US Army"
MSG Cappiello of Hamilton, New Jersey

"Hello Alan, I think of you from time to time especially when I think about the old days with you, your sister and family. I am so thankful that you came into my life and my daughter Mandy's life. I haven't written anything before now because I wasn't aware that this was even an option. I am glad that it does. I hope that your family still reads these messages because even though it has been almost 6 years I still think of their loss and what a great man that I am sure you grew to be. You were always a special young man to me and Mandy and so were your sisters. I wish you were here to see Mandy's little girl. She will be 1 on March 31st and she is just like her mom, into everything. I hope you are looking down on them both cause I couldn't think of a better guardian angel to do that for her. We do miss you but we have great memories of you to carry with us throughout our lives that will keep us smiling."
Teresa Stanley (Mandy Coltrane's mom) of High Point, NC

"Well this year has been very hard for me. It's 2:30 in the morning and I can't stop crying. I miss you so much! I have had the talk with Daniel on when you ever said you loved me. I'm so heartbroken to realize if I ever said it to you! Mom and Dad are having a birthday party for you. I couldn't go. I had one of my own. Alan I hate crying thinking I didn't get to tell you how much I love you! You are always in my dreams. I pray that you will come again and reassure me that I will be ok. I miss you terribly.Please visit me. My heart is still with you!!!! -your sis Andrea- XOXOXO"
Andrea of Chesapeake VA

"November 13, 2008
Its meee Ditha, Its been a while since I looked at your picture. Not because I forgot you but its because I cry every time til this day. I just want to tell you that you are truely missed and loved. And hope that you are still shinning upon us! The big 26 is coming up... and I could see you smiling right now! I wish you could see how happy I am and my new addition to the family. I just want to wish you a HAPPY BIRTHDAY and tell you that I've never forgotten and will never forget you."
Ditha Bounthakhampong of Burlington NC

"To the Family,
Your Son and Brother is not forgotten. I am sorry for your loss and sacrifice. Alan is in my heart and on my mind."
Chief Select Joe Cantrell of Locust, NC

"Alan, we shared a class your senior year of high school. We had so much fun and you made our class great. Thank you for your courage. I will always remember you."
Carla of Graham, NC

"Lam, Hey man its Cpl. Foster, I still remember the day like yesterday. I really wanted to go with you but I had stuff do to around the camp, If I had have known what was in store, NOTHING would have stopped me, I still think about you almost everyday. Not one memory of Iraq enters my head without me thinking about you. You are a great Marine, and inspired me by always wanting to learn. Your loss dealt a great blow to TF-2, and made us all realize, that the next move we make may be the most important one of our lives. Little bro, I know you rest in heaven now, and have no worries, and I can only hope to see you when I get there myself.

To Alans family, He was a great Marine and an inspiration to me, although he was not one of my Marines, I worked with him alot while in Iraq, as well as in Spain where I first met him. It seemed like everytime I was having trouble and getting frustrated with something, he would pop up and say, "Whats goin on Corporal?" He always paid alot of attention to what I was doing, I could tell he was absorbing everything I did, Which made me think things through while I was working, all in all helping me get the job done right and faster. He was a pleasure to serve with."
Jeffrey Foster of Atlanta GA

"To the Lam family. I worked with Alan in Iraq. I was there on that dreadful day outside of Kut Iraq. I remember it like it was yesterday. Alan is a great kid. He will always have a place in my heart. I am terribly sorry for your loss. RIP Marine!"
SGT T. of US Army Special Forces

"funny how it's been almost 5 years and your picture that anna gave me still sits on my entertainment center so i can look at you every day. i can never forget the day that mama jones called me from pleasant garden elementary about you. i still wish it wasn't true. i in downtown gboro now by the colleges and everytime someone over and sees your pic in my livingroom i boast about you. you were...are...the greatest the man i have ever met."
Amanda Jones of Greensboro, NC

"Dear Alan,
It's me your sister Melanie I just wanted to say that I really miss you very much. It only feels like ye3sterday you left for the castles in the Sky. We all miss you very much, Your nieces and nephews all love and miss you dearly. I know that your 5 year mark is coming up soon and yes we all plan to visit you in Arlington, Sometimes it is really hard for us to come to terms with your passing but we all try hard everyday. You were the glue that kept all together. Alan your always in my prayers and I always look forward to maybe catching a look at you in my dreams. Your lil nephew DiLan always talks about you like he has known you all of his life but the crazy thing is that you never got to meet him, but he can tell everyone what you look like and the things that you do. We keep you alive in all of our lives. We all miss you dearly and wish you never left so soon. But you will always remain in our hearts for now and forever. I truly miss you little brother. We miss your smiling faces and wonderful humor. Your always in my heart with all the love from me to you lil bro,~~~~ Your Big Sis"
Melanie Lam of Burlington, North Carolina

"I still think about Alan everyday. He was a great person to be around. I remember sitting on top of 7-tons and in fighting holes with him at night. We would just talk about anything. he was always willing to share something he had too. A bunch of us were supposed to go with him to the test range that day. I remember being so mad when I couldn't go. Later in the day, one of the Gunny's came over to tell me what happened. None of us could believe it. You will not be forgotten Alan."
Chris Black of Columbus,Oh

"IT'S BEEN A LONG TIME SINCE I HAVE VISITED THIS SITE, SIMPLY FOR THE FACT THAT IT'S STILL A RAW SUBJECT FOR ME AS WELL AS MY FAMILY EVEN AFTER ALL THE TIME HAS PASSED. I FIRST AND FOREMOST WOULD LIKE TO THANK ALL THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE SENT MESSAGES TO MY LIL' BROTHER AND MY FAMILY, YOU COULDN'T IMAGINE HOW MUCH IT MEANS TO US ALL TO HEAR HOW HE'S TOUCHED SO MANY PEOPLE'S LIVES AND TO KNOW THAT EVEN AFTER DEATH HE CONTINUES TO HAVE PEOPLE REACHING OUT. ALAN WAS THE LINCH PIN THAT HELD THE FAMILY TOGETHER AND WE MISS HIM DEARLY WITH EACH PASSING DAY. IT'S QUITE IMPOSSIBLE TO FORGET SOMEONE WHO HAS IMPACTED YOUR LIFE SO INCREDIBLY SO IN HONOR OF HIM WE DON'T FORGET...THERE HASN'T BEEN A HOLIDAY, A BIRTHDAY , A SINGLE MOMENT IN THE DAY THAT WE DON'T SPEAK IN REMEMBRANCE OF HIM. HE TRULY WAS ONE OF A KIND, AND WILL FOREVER BE MISSED AND LOVED. I MISS YA BRO..."
AMANDA LAM-BLACKWELL of REIDSVILLE,N.C.

"Even to this day I find friends that were in the area when you passed. It saddens me that I couldn't save you. Or even Daniel couldn't. Sometime I get mad and Blame him I don't know why? I miss you so much to the point that I can't remember anything from my past. LIke when we were kids and teenagers. All I can remember is your funeral and present day. I know you don't want me to be this way. I try to pray to god every night for guidence. Help me to help my family understand that this is going to work out for all of us. Someday we'll all be together. I miss you and love you so much. I just don't want you to be dissappointed in me when I carry old pain. I know you wouldn't want me to do it. So Please help me to show all of our family members to love again, and not to just waste away and wait for the end. I want them to embrace the life we have now and look forward towards the life we'll have when we reunite with you. I love you Alan so much. It hurts my heart to type this. I don't want my memory to ever forget you.So please stay in my dreams,where you always have been. I love you and miss you. XOXO"
Andrea Shaw of Chesapeake,VA

"To the family of:Alan Dinh Lam I am so sorry for the loss of your love one. My heart cries out for you in your grief and you have my thoughts and prayers. He died a hero defending freedom. May you have the peace and understanding that only comes from God. Prayerfully we will all meet in Heaven one day where we will rest in the arms of Jesus. If you need prayer or need someone to talk to, please call or write my pastor: Rev. John Pearrell 11677 Brown Bridge Rd., Covington, GA 30016. (770)787-1015. Your friend in Jesus Christ, Polly Ballew Covington,Ga"

"January 12, 2008
To the family of Cpl. Alan Dinh Lam:
Alan gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org"
Peggy Childers of Carson City, NV

"Well little brother today is your 24th birthday.. Happy Birthday. We all still miss you and think of you everyday. You are in our thoughts and prayers. I know if you were here today you'd be having a big celebration with your family. So cheers to you little brother. Again happy birthday. We love you.

Your loving sisters,
Andrea,Melanie,Amanda and Anna.
XOXOXO"
Andrea Shaw of Chesapeake,VA,USA

"Alan,
I would like to say thank you to you and the other two Marines who were also killed in that explosion for your service and sacrifice for our Country. And to your family and loved ones, I wish to extend my deepest sympathy.

Semper Fi Devil Dog!"

"To the entire family. Brenda,Lucky,Amanda,Melanie,Anna,and Andrea. When I first heard the news about Alan, I was floored. Your family has been so good to me. Like a family away from home. We laughed together, cried together, and even danced together. Lucky and Brenda, I know how proud you were of Alan. I know how close all of you are. And I know how much he loved his family. He was the kind of son we all hope we can have. One day we all will be together again in a place with no war. I miss you all so much and to this day will never forget Alan. Ive been trying to contact you but cant get through. E mail me. michael_mcneely111@yahoo.com"
Michael McNeely of Mebane NC

"times are ticking its been almost four years little cousin an still thinking of you what can i say your my family an i miss you everytime i see a picture i shed tears but i know for a fact you in a better place and im in the process of writing a song just for you alan but yo when i see you again we got to play with gi joes an hot wheels i love you little cousin an you will always be the best and your my hero"
matthew of holyoke ma

"I just want to give my sympathy to the entire family especially Anna who I knew the best. I am very sorry for your loss and hope that you are doing alright."
Patrick Gray of Albany, NY

"I never knew you, nor did I ever fight with you. but like you, I am a soldier that has fought for the same cause. You took the risks and faced them head on, and because of your sacrifices, the world will be a better place.

Honi Soit Qui Mal Y Pense"
Luke Bennellick of Canterbury, England

"To Alan and all his family, I remember you all so very well. Alan was such a sweet little boy and I loved him very much. You all were so special to me and a very important part of my life. To think he was just that little guy with his toothy smile... God Bless and know that I think of you all and Alan often. PLEASE email me @ Lovin2cu@aol.com, I would love to reconnect."
Lisa (Surprenant) Tucker ..."Auntie" of Southbridge, MA

"hey auntie brenda its been a while since you came to springfield"
melissa of springfield ma

"hey auntie brenda and uncle lucky.Dear alan i know i dont know you that well because i was a baby when you lived in springfield but i miss you and i love you. and hope you are in a happy place."
your cuz melissa of Springfield MA.

"I do not know this man really well but I do know him because we went to same high school at Southern Alamance in Graham. I have seen him around and have fun with his friends and I knew he was good man with good heart and good friend to everybody at Southern. When Southern Alamance played the football game (I do not know when or who they play against) but I was glad to be there to be part of his moment of silence at Southern and I knew he fought for his country and knew that hes good man in our heart. He will never be forgotten by all of his family and friends in the United States. May him Rest in Peace."
Brad Hardin of Graham, NC

"well auntie brenda an uncle lucky there aint a day that goes by with out me forgetting alan. everytime i hear a soldier died i think its alan all over again. i just wanted to let you know i think about you even though we dont speak that much. and i pray for you everyday that i can i just wanted to let you know that if you want to contact me send an email vileintent@hotmail.com love you both talk to you soon."
matthew of springfield,ma

"This spring at my college one of the groups on campus distributed badges of fallen soldiers to wear as a tangible reminder of the sacrifices made by our armed forces. My badge bore the name and photo of Alan. After reading messages left for him on this website and others I feel so sad for his family and friends. I just wanted to leave this posting to remind people that those who died in combat are remembered everyday across the country with honor and pride, though those positive feelings are blended with sadness at the loss of a great young man. My prayers are with you all."
Katie of Worcester, MA

"I went in the Marine Corp around the same time and talked to him at the rec. office .Even though our schools (Graham High school)didnt get along because of you know High School drama ,we would get along real well. We stared in a brotherhood in arms that we would carey till the end .Well Marine ,its probably time for you to check-in your family should be proud the gates of Heaven or being guarded by a outstanding Marine

Semper Fidelis
Cpl .Patrick Daniels ,Graham N.C"
Patrick Daniels of Graham NC

"I went in the Marine Corp around the same time and talked to him at the rec. office .Even though our schools (Graham High school)didnt get along because of you know High School drama ,we would get along real well. We stared in a brotherhood in arms that we would carey till the end .Well Marine ,its probably time for you to check-in your family should be proud the gates of Heaven or being guarded by a outstanding Marine

Semper Fidelis
Cpl .Patrick Daniels ,Graham N.C"
Patrick Daniels of Graham NC

"A beautiful person, a beautiful heart, a beautiful artist, a strong soldier, you are forever missed..."
Katie of NC

"I had the plessure of knowing Alan for most of the time we were in the Corps together. We went to Boot Camp together and then on to MCT and Lejuene for a while. Alan could always make you smile and brighten up you day when you were down. I was deployed with a couple other guys from boot camp when we found out about your and our lose. Losing Alan was a big lose to the you all, to us, and the Corps. God be with you and Alan.

Cpl Plemmons R.E."
Robert Plemmons of Alpharetta, GA

"Goodbye, there’s just no sadder word to say
And it’s sad to walk away
With just the memories
Who’s to know what might have been
We’ll leave behind a life and time
We’ll never know again
(leanne rimes)"
someone of somewhere

"ITS BEEN ONE YEAR AN HES GONE// IM REPLAYING ARE CHILD HOOD LIKES ITS A SONG//THINKING OF THE FUN TIMES//WHEN WE NEVER DID ANYTHING WRONG//YOU GREW UP PROPER//YOU WENT SOUTH THE ONLY TIME I SHED TEARS IS WHEN I GOT A CALL//YOUR GONE//THIS IS WHY I DEDICATING THIS SONG

MY LITTLE COUSIN YOUR GONNA BE MISSED//MY LITTLE COUSIN ONLY TRUE FRIEND I HAD//MY LITTLE COUSIN IF THERE WAS 1 WISH I WOULD HAVE BEEN THERE WITH YOU//

WHY DOES DEATH COME UNEXPECTED//IN THE STREETS THERES NO AGE AN RACE//BUT IN WAR YOU GOT SOME UP TIGHT RICH WHITE GUY TELLIN YOU TO DIE//THERE SO MUCH ANGER AN PAIN//I KEEP ASKING MYSELF WHY OH WHY//THEN I LOOK TO GOD//HE TOOK HIS ANGEL//THINK OF ALAN AS PRECIOUS GEM//A ONE OF A KIND SOLDIER//THE TYPE NEVER LET THE WEIGHT ON HIS SHOULDER HOLD HIM DONE//ONLY THING I WANNA HEAR IS HIM MAKE A SOUND

MY LITTLE COUSIN YOUR GONNA BE MISSED//MY LITTLE COUSIN ONLY TRUE FRIEND I HAD//MY LITTLE COUSIN IF THERE WAS 1 WISH I WOULD HAVE BEEN THERE WITH YOU//

MY LITTLE COUSIN I KNOW YOU DID WHATS WAS RIGHT// MY LITTLE COUSIN A AMERICAN HERO IN MY SIGHT"
MATT of SPRINGFIELD MA

"To the Alan Lam Family,
Yesterday I briefly spoke with you while you were visiting Alan at Arlington...You were there in honor of Alan's 21st Birthday. I will never forget the few moments I stood and talked with you. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you...Thank you Alan for your courageous service and sacrifice to this great nation!"
Kerri Wempe Simoncic (Army Nurse Corps 2000-2004) of Alexandria, VA

"Alan, I served with you at 8th Comm in Camp Lejeune. Your sacrifice will never be forgotten. My condolences to your family."
Joshua Faucett of United States Naval Academy

"I worked with Alan and was in Iraq with him. He was a great man, always made us laugh. I could go on and on about him and how bright his future was. A day never goes by that I dont think about him. Semper Fidelis Marine, You will never be forgotten."
Michael from 8th Comm Bn of Charlotte, NC

"Sorry, I never told you,
all I wanted to say. Now it's
too late to hold you. 'Cause you've
flown away, so far away.

And I know you're shining down on me from Heaven,
like so many friends we've lost along the way, and
I know eventually we'll be together, Together babe,
One sweet day. One sweet day
(mariah carey)"
someone of somewhere

"ALAN DINH LAM 11/16/1983-04/22/2003
"HIS FIRST YEAR IN HEAVEN"
Stepping off the train at the
gates of Heaven
Nearing God's celestial
choir of Angels
Celebrating your
homecoming; your return.
Greeted by friends, family,
saints and angels;
Your home
Some call it "a better place"
while others refer to it as
"Heaven"
Now you can race amongst
the clouds,
Go as fast and as far as
you like.
Fish in the ocean-blue
skies, and in the evening
cast your nets into a
sea of stars.
You can feel the
sunrise kiss your
face each morning.
Conversate with saints
and scholars for hours as
though time
were standing still.
Knowing you wish we had
been there.
No description on earth
could or can compare with
all the rapture and glory
You've witnessed in
Heaven so fair.
It must be a heavenly sight
To know that it's real,
no longer a dream.
To have the angels
blessings kiss your soul.
To sit before God himself
and confess to him the one
thing you loved on earth
was "your life" itself.
How even with the
hardships and things not
always going in the
direction you'd like them to,
you wouldn't change a
thing. How your family was
a humble one and of
modest means.
Made you the man you are
in Heaven. Being grateful
for the time spent with
them and not regretting
your experience but hoping
to have the opportunity to
relive it.
By Your Loving Sister Amanda

P.S. Alan you are with us each day and night. I know we all will be together again. We All Love You..
XOXOXOXOXOXO
Your Family."
ANDREA LYNN LAM of SNOW CAMP,NORTH CAROLINA,ALAMANCE

"RIP Marine"
Petty Officer Cawthon of RTC Great Lakes, IL

"TO YOU MY LOVING BROTHER, I NEVER GOT THE CHANCE TO TELL YOU HOW SPECIAL YOU WERE TO ALL OF US. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE OUR HERO. WE ALL MISS YOU VERY MUCH WORDS CAN NOT EXPLAIN HOW EMPTY THINGS ARE AROUND THE HOUSE WITHOUT YOU THERE. I KNOW YOUR WITH US ALWAYS, BUT I WOULD GIVE THE WORLD JUST TO GIVE ONE BIG SISTER HUG.. I REALLY WISH WE COULD HAVE HAD ALOT MORE TIME TOGETHER. MOM,DAD,AMANDA,ANDREA,ANNA, AND I MISS YOU VERY VERY MUCH KEEPING YOU IN OUR HEARTS ALWAYS AND FOREVER...

P.S. YOUR CAR LOOKS GOOD MAN....!! IT WILL TAKE SOME TIME BUT I WILL GET I RIGHT JUST FOR YOU OKAY. I LOVE YOU "BIG BRO" WILL MEET AGAIN...
ANGLES TAKE GOOD CARE OF MY LITTLE BROTHER.... MISS YOU LOVE YOU ALWAYS....."
MELANIE KAY LAM of BURLINGTON,NORTH CAROLINA,ALAMANCE

"THOUGH I NEVER MET ALAN I SAW HIS PICTURE AT A CONCERT ON CAMP LEGUNE BASE. SINCE THEN I HAVE NEVER BEEN ABLE TO FORGET HIS FACE. I WENT SEARCHING JUST TO FIND OUT HIS NAME. I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS AND MAY GOD BE WITH YOU."
BRITTNEY ARANJO of JACKSONVILLE,NC,USA

"hey auntie brenda an uncle lucky its me matt. i know we barley speak an you dont know how it killed me when alan died. i can remember times in six corners when were little brats playing with are hot wheels an legos. too the time you guys moved to new york an we came an vist you. we went fishing an had so much fun. alan more like a brother then a cousin to me i just wanna say keep your head up high and that im praying for you and i might take trip down there too see alan grave site

love always matt"
matt baker of springfield ma usa

"I am sorry to hear about your loss of your son. I am sure he was very nice."
7th grade student of Barker Midde School

"He lived a good life and had lots of friends. Always be in memories. Marine that did his duty."
7th grade student of Barker Middle School

"In Loving Memory..Its been a year..

At the rising of the sun and at its going down, We remember them.
At the blowing of the wind and in the chill of Winter, We remember them.
At the opening of buds and in the rebirth of Spring, We remember them.
At the blueness of the skies and in the warmth of Summer, We remember them.
At the rustling of leaves and the beauty of Autumn, We remember them.
At the beginning of the year and when it ends, We remember them.
As long as we live, they too will live;
for they are now a part of us, as we remember them.
Rest in Peace Dear Soldier! We will NEVER FORGET!!"
The Grogan Family of Lakeland, TN (4/2004)

"Ill always remember...
Never too far away
I won’t let time erase
One bit of yesterday
Cause I have learned that
Nobody can take your place
And though we can never be
I’ll always think of you and me
Always remember
You’re never too far"
someone of somewhere

"Hello. I saw Alan in "People" magazine and I was so delighted that they paid tribute to the soldier's that parished instead of the usual star gossip.

I want to thank Alan for his courage and bravery. I want to also say I am so sorry to his loved ones!

God pick's his roses. Alan is in paradise now.

He was a very handsome man as well!

God Bless! <3 <3 <3 glamgal4ever@yahoo.com"
Colleen Marie of Pittsburgh, PA

"one year later: We NEVER forget!
Please KNOW so many people share your sadness, and we are remembering your family in your loss and your deep grief. Your HERO, Alan will be remembered by name. Our thoughts and prayers continue to be with you. God Bless you. Pat & Sandi Breckenridge from Montana "

"Corporal Lam, goodbye soldier and thank you. You are my hero."
Bill of Houston, Texas

"I would like to take this moment to honor the men and women of our military who died while serving for our nation. The sacrifices Alan made and the deeds he performed shall remain alive in our memories for generations to come. The VFW expresses sincerely our pride and gratitude for the tasks they fulfilled.

Raymond Wong
Wongrad@pacbell.net
US Navy, Retired
Vietnam War Veteran
Commander, VFW District 15, Department of California"
Raymond Wong of San Francisco, CA

"alan we didn't spend that much time together but iwant you to know that i will always love you. you will always be my big cuz"
nikki of springfield MA

"YOU'RE HERE
I believe that part of God's
Perfect plan says that love
Like yours is never gone.
I believe that He sends you,
As my special angel, to guide
Me as my life goes on.

So in my most joyous moments,
You are standing at my side,
My joy is your joy...
My dream yours to share...
My life your great source
Of pride.

I know I can't hug you...
I can't hold your hand
Or see that smile I love.
But you're here...I feel it...
Sent by God from your new
Home in heaven above."
someone of somewhere

"Alan,
I will never forget you and your charming ways. I remember when you used to walk to my house all the time and we would sit outside and talk or just act up. Everyday I regret the way things ended with us and I wish it had never happened that way. When you moved to snow camp I tried to find you. I wanted to tell you how sorry I was and just hear your voice again, but no one knew how to contact you. You were so cute and fun to be around. I know you were watching me the day I found out what happened to you. It tore me to pieces. I also know that you hear me talking to you almost everyday. I can't wait until the day I see you again. There are days that I just sit on my bed and read all your old letters you used to write to me. You were the sweetest and still are the sweetest guy I had ever come across. (PS. at least you'll always have my intials and I'll always have your tattoo) I miss you so much Alan, and I'll always love you."
casey miller of greensboro

"I STILL DON'T BELIEVE THAT YOU'RE GONE. I SIT AND THINK THAT AT ANY MINUTE YOU'RE GOING TO COME WALKING THROUGH THE DOOR. OR CALL TO TELL ME THAT YOUR CAR IS GOING TO BE SO MUCH BETTER THAN MINE. OR TO LECTURE ALL OF US GIRLS ON HELPING MOM OUT WITH THE HOUSE. I MISS YOU SO MUCH. IT'S AMAZING HOW MANY PEOPLE ACKNOWLEDGE THE SACRIFICE YOU MADE FOR EVERYONE.THOUGH US GIRLS WERE OLDER THAN YOU. WE LOOKED UP TO, MORE THAN YOU KNEW. YOU WERE OUR "BIG BRO" WE ALL LOVE YOU. SOMEDAYS I THINK WE ARE GOING TO MAKE IT THROUGH ALL OF THIS TOGETHER. OTHER DAYS IT SEEMS LIKE WE ARE AT A STANDSTILL. MOM AND DAD MISS YOU SO MUCH. YOU WERE THEIR BABY BOY. WE ALL LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU. YOU HAVE MADE US ALL RELIZE THAT TIME IS PRECIOUS. THE SHORT TIME THAT I GOT TO SPEND WITH YOU WILL ALWAYS BE WITH ME. YOU WERE THE HEART OF THE FAMILY. THE GREATEST. I'M SO SAD THAT I'LL NEVER BE ALBE TO TELL YOU HOW GREAT I THOUGHT WERE. WE ALL LOVE YOU. YOU ARE IN OUR PRAYERS AND DREAMS.
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH."
ANDREA of SNOW CAMP,NC/ALAMANCE

"Thank you Alan Lam, you will not be forgotten. Your bravery goes beyond words. I want to express my deepest gratitude for your sacrifice. To the family and friends, my prayers and deep condolences in your loss. May God strengthen you from knowing that fellow Americans and people around the world care about you and grieve with you in your loss. God bless you all. A very appreciative fellow American,"
Leo Titus of Grayslake, Illinios

"Alan man you were one fo the nicest people i had ever met in my short time living. I try to remember the good times thinking about trading mre's and braging about our wives to be. Thanks for the goggles when i couldn't see to well. I know i had been up for over 24 hours. I was to tired to stay up. I wish now i could have found the strength in me somewhere to get up and go instead of giving you the chance to take my place. You will never be forgotten by me. I promise you that. Semper Fi"

"I am a 1992 Patriot Graduate of Southern Alamance High School. My Nephews attended school with Alan (one graduated with him). We all were saddened to hear of his death. He was a wondeful Gentleman that would do anything for anyone. May God bless and keep his family during these troubled times."
1992 Graduate of Mebane, NC

"Alan, you were my everything. I think about you day and night and i cry. i miss you so much. We go back to when were i was 8 and you 11. i know that you are watching over me, i can feel you here with me. days i just stare at our pictures wonderin how you are wishin you were here. you are one of the best people that i know. the perfect gentlemen. the joy that you brought to your family, you make them so proud...including me. i love you so much and miss you with all my heart. you are so perfect. i will never forget you and no one will ever compare to you. i love you alan, i love you."
Leah Cirillo of Saugerties, New York

"Alan and I were in art classes together in high school. the main memory i have of Alan was embarrassing yet chilvarious on his part. We were painting a banner or something of that nature and the tube of red paint ended up on my shirt. Alan then took his shirt off, gave it to me to go home and get another and waited for me to come back. If he can give that much to me, I know just how much more he put into defending his country. I appreciate him more than words can describe!"
Anna of Burlington NC

"Alan, I know you'll always be with me but I miss you soooo much. I'll always remember about the whipped cream and strawberries that you were joking about in 10th grade before you and your mom left for the store.
Your twin nephews look just like you and everytime they look at me I'll always think of you playing with them the day before you left to go to war. They're almost as cute as their uncle. And don't worry, they're in good hands with me and your sis."
Amanda Jones of Pleasant Garden, NC, Guilford

"I just want to take the time to say how honored I was to know Alan and his whole family. I miss him more and more each day and I'm also very proud that he had the courage to take the place of a pregnant lady who would have been sent over seas if he didn't stand up and voulnteer himself to take her place. I love you Alan more than you ever knew and I hope you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers every day and night. I miss you more than words can discribe. I cant wait till the day I see you in heaven."
Ashley Hendee of South Kortright, NY USA

"We thank you for the sacrafice Alan made for us. Our prayers are with your family during this difficult time. Thank you brave soldier!"
Ken and Maritza Holley of Pembroke Pines, Florida

"To the family and friends of Lance Cpl. Alan Lam:
May God's grace be with you during your time of grief. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and we feel your loss and share in your sorrow. Bless Alan for the sacrifice he has made to make a better life for the rest of us."
The Ford Family of Wells, Nevada

"To the family and friends of Lance Cpl. Alan Lam:
I am saddened by the loss of your loved one. He will always be remembered as a hero for fighting for freedom. I hope that this website will be a source of comfort and encouragement for you during this difficult time, and in the future as you recall the memories of Alan, who continues to live on in your heart."
Tim Rivera, of Powder Springs, Georgia

Honor them by remembering... Freedom - is their gift to us But his soul goes marching on